We had the privilege of working with Family First for an intensive 7-week program for our 4-year old son combining Speech Language Pathology and Occupational Therapy (with their partners at Kids Connect). Prior to being referred here, the road we were on was not easy. Around age 3, our sweet and happy boy started becoming angry and aggressive, exhibiting some pretty "strong willed" and often times "defiant" behavior. By age 4, his behavior worsened and started causing problems in school and with friends. We sought help which, before finding Family First, came in the form of mainstream behavioral intervention which focuses primarily on teaching parents how to respond to and correct "problem" behaviors in children. While these "tools" worked to elicit a specific behavior from our son, the approach felt very robotic and at times "soldier-like". We couldn't shake the feeling that we were essentially applying a "bandaid" to his symptoms without figuring out and tending to the "why" behind them. Our son's anger and aggression were still there; we had just effectively gotten him to hold it all in. This just didn't seem right. We had to know why our happy, sweet, affectionate, and loving toddler had become an increasingly angry and aggressive preschooler with his head down anxiously absorbed in his own world. This led us to advocate on his behalf, research all the options and eventually find real, life-changing help at Family First.
At Family First, our experience has been nothing short of amazing. We feel extraordinarily fortunate to have found practitioners of the kind of work they do. It is honestly like a whole new world has been opened up for us and for our son. We believe (and hope) it is just a matter of time before the work they do becomes the way everyone works with children. Everything we've learned makes sense and feels right. We immediately saw positive results that really helped our son, instead of just putting a bandaid on things. Vanessa and her team focused on the foundation, the root causes of our son's behaviors, the "why", and began treating our son's needs on that very basic level. The results have been astounding. Now, instead of focusing on how to respond to our son's problem behaviors, we are finding that we rarely have any problem behaviors to respond to at all! After only 3 weeks, our son went from needing correction and time-outs several times per day at home and at school...to... now receiving glowing reports daily at school and only 2 time-outs in over 3 weeks.
We know we are on a lifelong journey of development but we are so grateful for what this program is doing for our precious son. He is once again the happy little boy he was when he came into this world!
The DIR Floor-time model that Family First and Kids Connect employ should be standard parent education for everyone with children, not just families with specific needs. But for those of us who's children need additional help, this type of therapy has the potential to dramatically change the trajectory of a child's life. We are forever grateful to Vanessa, Cris, Michelle, Leslie and the entire team at Family First and Kids Connect. read more