tl;dr version - Trevor is great. Calm, collected, insightful, caring, and incredibly easy to talk to. Whether you think you have 'issues' or not, you will benefit from talking to him, and your relationship(s) will benefit as well, whether you go to him as an individual, or as a couple.
Full version -
Counseling, as you either already know or hopefully discover, is, to state the obvious, incredibly personal. Whether you have issues in your past or your present, things buried deep that you only catch occasional glimpses of, or something that is constantly on the surface and interrupting your daily goals, counseling is something that I think everybody should participate in. The world is an incredibly complicated place, moving at an ever increasing pace, and interacting with people is always multi-layered and multi-faceted, and affected by conscious and unconscious things in our past and present.
Recognizing this, I pushed for some kind of counseling prior to getting married to my amazing wife. It wasn't that we didn't get along well, because we actually have always gotten along better, and treated each other better, than most people I know. I wanted to be proactive, and work on things before they became problems so that they never truly became a really big problem. I grew up a 'troubled child', experiencing psychiatrists and therapy, overly cerebral and introspective, and skeptical about anybody being able to tell me things I didn't already know about myself. So I was going to be a tough case, without a clear direction I wanted things to go, and that is obviously a challenge.
From the first session, Trevor was, perhaps most importantly, really easy to talk to. A therapist can be the most intelligent and insightful person in the world, but if you don't feel like opening up to them, they aren't going to be able to do you any good. Trevor is fortunately not only intelligent and insightful, but gifted in his ability to put people at ease and converse with them in a non-judgemental, bi-directional way. My wife and I have very different communication styles, and yet he talks to both of us in ways that work for both of us at the same time. He has not only helped us navigate differences in outlook and personality that could have led to tension in our relationship if left unaddressed, but he has provided concrete usable tools and techniques for overcoming tensions that invariably do arise. Trevor also manages to make you feel like he is a friend without ever making you feel like he is on one person's side or in any way crossing the professional lines that maintain his effectiveness as your therapist, and I imagine that is a rare ability and difficult line to walk.
As the above indicates, I could probably rabbit on endlessly about Trevor and how great he is and how highly I would recommend him. I could also fill pages with how much I think therapy and counseling should be a part of everybody's life, probably starting in middle school at the latest, and how having structured time to think about and work on yourself and your relationships is truly invaluable. But I'm hoping you still (are) read(ing) this, so will just end by saying that you will do yourself a service and invariably improve your life by dipping a toe in therapeutic waters if you have not done so already. And that whether you are a total n00b to the process, or a seasoned pro, I can not recommend Trevor highly enough to do him justice. Check out his site, shoot him an email, and start the conversation. You will be glad you did.
-Scott read more