I feel foolish yelping a bar, but felt it was necessary. I did bar/club security for roughly 20 years in Downtown SJ, San Jose, Sunnyvale, Oakland, etc. I know how people are, I know the basic rules of most places and I try to not be that guy that "tests" security, harasses women, acts tough, wears questionable items, etc.
Usually, when I go to bars it is very very seldom since I worked in the industry for so long and I try to stay away. This was my 2nd time coming in, and we were celebrating my late birthday..We weren't dressed up and did not make a big night of it, we just wanted to grab a couple of man sodas n chill then go home.
Initially, when we pulled up, I parked my Stang in front of the liquor store, skinny security walks up, and asks if we were having drinks, we say yes, and he kindly states it was liquor store parking only, so we parked across the street. Mind you we were out of the car and standing in front of him. No problem we follow rules, no attitudes nothing.. We finally go into the bar, they greet us, and take our IDs and video photograph, no problem. We have a seat at the bar, I order a delicious vanilla bean porter, my buddy an IPA, we chill, we vibin, and eventually we make our way to the band area. They had a band playing and we just sat there, slowly drinking our beers, I order 2 more IPA's and then the skinny security comes over to my buddy and started telling him that he was wearing "double red" and his manager wasn't there earlier so they didn't say anything, but now he's asked to take it off. Keep in mind, this seems to be a friendly neighborhood bar patronized by a lot of caucasian folks, and of course, my buddy and I are Latinos, not LatinX and of course, we stick out like sore thumbs. My buddy is a County worker, married, kids, has no tattoos, and definitely has never been in a gang but was wearing a red checkered flannel and a white Niners hat with a red logo. I'm wearing black pants, a black hoodie n shirt, and a red Niners hat and I am an Accountant for a construction company, definitely not in a gang, not to mention I'm in my late 40s lol.. We were literally just sitting there, nobody around us, enjoying the band and barely on our 2nd drink. We definitely were not trying to bring any attention to ourselves, just wanted a couple of beers and call it a night.
We were both bothered by this request, I get it, there are gangs in the area, and in order to prevent them from coming in they have to make sure they previously enforced the rules on people already inside. Security tells us, "they just barely caught this." Again, we want no trouble, and we aren't gonna make a big deal, but after 20 years of doing security, I can see where this young man lacks experience in. You had us on the sidewalk by the car, you had us again at the door checking ID's and it was not busy, 2 hours later you barely catch it? That sounds a lil sus bro.. I hate bringing race into it, but ya, unfortunately, I got the racey vibes out of it.. "double red" smh.. If the double red was an issue, you could've brought it up by the sidewalk and at the ID booth. The proper way to address this would've been to explain the rules and nip it in the bud at the door, and or let us know the rules, and that your manager was not there and later we would have to remove it. Anyhow you "did not catch it." which also tells me you're not very good at observing people and behaviors... hate to be there when sh^t hit's the fan because you let something slide and not too good at your job.
We closed off our tab, and the bartender with the dirty blonde ponytail was explaining the situation after we brought it up, we didn't argue with him because it's their bar, their rules.....he apologized, and was being real cool about it, gave us a drink chip, we "understood" and left home. I'm sure this place will not miss my business since I rarely go out, but it's the principal. When you work security, you have to make your initial assessments during the first encounter... "does this person pose a threat? how is their behavior? are they being aggressive, do they look like they are in a gang, can they be a threat to us later." those are the checks and balances you make at the door, not 2 hours after the fact. But eventually, he will get it... anyhow.. I guess we will have to go to a gang-infested non caucasian bar just to fit in and have a beer.. thanks Willow Den lol read more