BEWARE OF Showbox SoDo!!!!
I had a horrific experience at Showbox SoDo tonight!!!! I had to leave the J.I.D. concert, and I've been crying as I type this... I have been to the Showbox SODO several times and I won't be returning.
*Just a disclaimer, I'm from the deep South, where is racism is extremely overt and sadly, very much a normalized part of everyday life. Consequently, bigoted, discriminatory behavior, for the most part, doesn't particularly phase me because it is a reality I had to deal with growing up. However, that was not the case tonight.*
While I am aware that racism manifests itself in other parts of the United States (and of course, the entire world), I wasn't expecting to have such an overtly discriminatory experience in a city that claims to be so "progressive." BULLSHIT LOL. Obviously, this perspective of mine was derived from a place of naiveté, but I'm glad that I had this experience to enlighten me.
Here's what happened:
I bought a ticket for the J.I.D. concert at the ShowBox. I went through security and I walked to the bar area to meet my friend. I met my friend in the bar area, and we began talking. A bouncer approached me and told me to show him my wristband because I didn't do it before I walked in. I didn't realize I hadn't shown him my wristband I showed him my wristband. This was about the third time someone had asked me to show my wristband, so I said to my friend in an annoyed tone, "Why are they so aggressive about showing the wristbands? This is like the third time I have shown it." Then, the first bouncer came back with another bouncer and he said to show him my wristband with a flashlight in his hand. I told him that I had already shown my wristband to the first bouncer. The first bouncer said that I "covered my hand" when I showed him my wristband. I had been holding my hands in front of me and I didn't change that position when I showed him my wristband the first time, so I think he interpreted it as me "resisting". I'm honestly still confused what exactly made him bring the other bouncer over.
At this point, I was really uncomfortable. I'm not a confrontational person and this situation escalated from 0 to 100 for no reason. The second bouncer kept saying "show me your wristband, show me your wristband," with his flashlight and I honestly froze. I didn't say anything and I didn't know what to say because I was intimidated and they were freaking me out. They very aggressively said, "Stop ignoring us, show me your wristband. I wanted to say something, but I was still frozen. Then told me "let's go" and they forced me to follow them outside. Once we were outside I said, "I don't understand, I didn't say anything. I didn't say anything." They said, "You should have shown us your wristband," even though I already had. Then I said that they made me really uncomfortable and that I didn't know what to say to two men that were clearly "much larger than me". Then they said that wasn't "fair" because they were really "nice" when they asked and I didn't comply, which completely invalidated my perspective of the situation. Then I said, "You really freaked me out/scared me and I didn't know what to say. I didn't want to say the wrong thing so I was just quiet. I didn't say anything." I just kept repeating "I didn't say anything." as tears formed in my eyes. Then one of the bouncers laughed in my face, cut off my wristband said for me to "have a nice day".
I'll admit that I wasn't completely innocent in this scenario. I should have spoken up, but I was unnecessarily humiliated, targeted, and held to a ridiculous standard for the sake of "security". I know that all attendees at the Showbox SoDo aren't treated this way. I objectively recognize that bouncers have to do their jobs, but escalating this scenario to this level is ludicrous and self-aggrandizing on their parts. Because I didn't show my wristband EXACTLY in the manner they wanted to, and because I didn't say EXACTLY what they wanted tried to intimidate me and it worked. However, when I was scared and didn't say anything, they said that I "wasn't scared" as if they knew how I felt. Two men ganging up on a woman is not okay. Two men telling a woman how she felt is not okay.
I am deeply disturbed by what went down tonight and with a heavy heart, I am still trying to make sense of all that happened. It only takes one person to remind of you of your "place" and I haven't felt this small in a really long time. It breaks my heart to know that the ShowBox condones this kind of pernicious behavior and I genuinely hope this doesn't happen to anyone else in the future. read more