I want to tell you a story.
I have this Puerto Rican friend who lives on island time. I might as well tell you his name: Jason. I sometimes call him Jasongo, because I like giving people nicknames. Nomenclature is something I fancy.
Yesterday (Tuesday), Island Boy sent me the following text: (run a big, bad massive "sic" all the way through this mother) "ho-me, dance lik david bowie at rella nite it will be blastworthy brutha i heart you hermano. 11?"
My buddy Hason has a huge heart, a blackbelt in jujitsu, a really good tan, a wayfaring gait and no watch. I think he thinks he constantly hears the surf, and he lives like he has several major surfing sponsorships. He also rarely shows up when he says he will. And, he still eats Ramen noodles.
Yesterday, I made him swear to me that, in the evening, he would not lie down, recline or even cogitate for a moment the prospect of closing his eyes. Surfer brah can go down for a "nap" and sleep the whole night through, ten or eleven hours worth, see? He stands me up all the time.
He stood me up last night, and I am going to tell you all about it.
I showed up at Barbarella to meet Mr. Coppertone around 10:45. I had been to Barbarella 2X before, both on Thursdays for the wonderful "Grits and Gravy". I did not know the Tuesday theme, only that PR typed that it would be "blastworthy brutha".
I did notice a dearth of females and an abundance of carriers of the Y chromosome. I also noticed a pungent--nay, sweetly acrid--aroma as I leaned toward the bartender. "Gin and tonic" never hurt so much to yell--in a husky sort of way--as it did at the bar at Barbarella.
While I was waiting for the 'tender to "fix" my $2 drink I struggled to push back the furious flow of painful images of my mom hurling--flinging, even--sour dish rags across the kitchen at me.
"You and your smart mouth! You treat me like I'm your servant."
(Weave, bob, duck.)
I moved swiftly from the bar as soon as I grasped my drink. I walked "into" the dance floor. The drink, a weak pour (but only $2!), didn't really serve to jettison the malevolent memories, but the green lights shooting laser-like from the ceiling (where the lightsource lives) did. Then, there was the "smoke" that came hissing from the "fog machine". Then, there were the screens featuring videos to match the music; music that my highschool-Saturday-night-Scrabble-playing self did not recognize; music that made my legs move: and even my hips.
And, so I "danced". I was dancing by myself. I was white boy Southern Baptist used-to-be, straight up-straight, soul kid wannabe dancing.
After a couple of foggy, green striated techno tunes to which I moved, dancing, I decided to wander through the place.
I wondered as I wandered: How frickin' big IS this place?? Stinky bar spills to dance floor turns to booths rolls to photo booth (?) moves to 'nother bar converts to sprawling outside split level seating.
Like Jethro said to Ellie Mae: This place is HUGE!
I finished my Gin and tonic and tonic and tonic and went back to the dancefloor. No Jason. Three girls. Twenty-seven guys.
Hmmmmm...I'm not in Des Moines anymore.
I decided to dance some more. I offered to buy a drink for one of the three. She accepted. We braced for olfactory convulsions and bellied back up. We clinked our plastic vodka tonics (only $3.50!) and got to the kinda dancing I can do: the grind kind. She kept grinning and shyly (slyly?) looking away. I kept asking what.
She would lean in and answer. I would nod and show my dimples, ignorant to her words.
At some point, around 11:45 (I had been there an hour whilst my olive-skinned ho-me slumbered), I noticed the dance floor was packed. Packed. Lots of tank tops. Lots of shorts. Lots of men.
I looked up at one of the video screens. There were four men in wrestling singlets, feet touching in some sort of crab walk formation. They were--in synchronized, pulsating fashion--slowly, purposefully thrusting their pelves (this, unlike the video, is acceptable) skyward, in worshipful, feverishly phallic fashion.
"Tuesgayz" appeared on the screen.
Tuesgayz.
I leaned in (okay, by now there was no room to lean) to my "dancing" partner and chortled, "It's called Tuesgayz. That's funny."
She leaned back, pushing away to gain distance for visual perspective. Through the green-slashed dance floor fog she exclaimed, wide-eyed: "You're gay, right?!"
I shook my head no, a little confused. I mean, the grinding wasn't exactly Plato-style, my friends.
"Oh no, I have a boyfriend!"
(Obviously, an attached girl is allowed to make out with a gay guy.)
We shook hands and parted; I smiled, aware that I had a story to tell.
Though now solo, I didn't want to leave; I stared down the room, taking in the gyrations, the couplings, the joy.
I might not be gay, but I would say I was if it meant gaining access to Barbarella on Tuesdayz. read more