About two years ago my partner & I endured a homophobic encounter with a bouncer, where we were…read moredenied entry for being gay.
While I hold no ill will towards this establishment (I do not believe this business, its owner, or its employees are homophobic), this does not change the fact that they employ at least one homophobic bouncer. They attempted to gaslight us, saying we were turned away for holding out of state IDs, but both my partner & I have experienced enough homophobia to know better. The bouncer was aggressive, inappropriate, and clearly homophobic.
We did not feel safe. The other bouncer looked uncomfortable with the exchange, but was silent and therefore siding with the bouncer harassing us.
As if that wasn't enough, while we were dazed and surprised at the bouncer for his actions, he readily admitted three girls with out of state IDs--right in front of us.
We left, but realizing what had happened, I walked back to confront the bouncer, to say how what had just happened was not okay. He further gaslighted me, grew flustered, & ended by reiterating how he has the right to turn away whoever he wants.
In this case, he was exerting his right to not let two gay guys into this establishment.
& for the record, we were not disrespectful or causing any problems that would have perhaps been grounds to deny us entry. We were sober, polite, & totally docile--I encourage anyone countering otherwise to go look at whatever security footage Sickenberger Lane has from that night. There you'll see me & my partner smiling & waiting, then looking confused & dazed as the bouncer harassed us. If I had known what we were walking into, I would've turned on a voice recorder.
If you're queer, you should consider going elsewhere. You might end up having a great time, but you need to know that, depending on the night and who the bouncer is, this is not a safe place for you.