Story highlights because this one is long: "Her dress was not good taste." "Your dress looks better than that other bride." "You stand too comfortable. You should suck in more." "You're going to fall on your face at your reception." "You're a waste of my time."
I went to Elegant Alterations yesterday to get an estimate on alterations to my wedding gown. The dress itself was just under $4000. With that in mind, I wanted the alterations to be done well, but also still be affordable since I spent most of my budget on the dress itself. I told Cathy beforehand on the phone that I wanted an estimate on my dress alterations, and she said to come by anytime after 4:45. I show up at 5 because I had trouble finding the place, and she is passive aggressive to me about being late. I just shake it off because she's right, I was later. Next, she tells me to put on the dress. When I come out, she starts comparing my dress to the girl who had been there when I came in (who I knew from college, but hadn't mentioned that yet) and saying mine was better and hers was ugly with no taste. I tell her that both are great, just different! I said her dress fits her personality well and she seemed to like it. She rolls her eyes.
Next, when she is pinning my dress, she tells me she needs to hem the back part of the underlining, and I tell her that isn't necessary because I am on a budget, and that part won't matter for how I have my reception planned. She continues to try to bully me into hemming the dress her way by saying, "when you fall on your face at your reception, you'll think of me and know I was right." Still I don't budge.
Next, when I'm standing waiting for her to get something, she tells me I'm "standing too comfortable" and motions to my stomach sticking out. She goes on to tell me that I need to suck my stomach in all day on my wedding day because it's worth it on a special day. Cute.
She also quotes me on $35 per bustle, and insists there needs to be 3, which I now see from other past reviews that she was charging me $15 more than other people. At this point, I think she realizes that I don't have endless money to burn because I keep insisting on budget-friendly alterations due to the dress already fitting me so well (it fits like a frickin glove, it just needs a hem and bustle). Because she sees I have a price limit, she starts getting more aggressive and dismissive with my feedback and reminding me of all the more wealthy people she's done dresses for *name drops specific Beaman family members(who I also know and went to college with so that was uncomfortable again)*.
At this point, I've been there over an hour (15 min of which she spent talking about other people's gowns and personal lives that I quite frankly don't care about at all and it's not my business who got a divorce), so I say I need to go and I'll compare prices elsewhere and get back to her. She freezes and acts surprised that I'm taking n my dresses with me. I remind her that I told her on the phone that I was just getting a price estimate, and she responds by saying "lots of brides call me, that's not my fault." Got a pen? Write it down. That's what our appointment was for, and I was clear about that.
Next, she starts berating me about how I had "wasted her time" and she kept repeating "MY time is money." I say, "I'm sorry if there was a misunderstanding, but I was clear on the phone about what I wanted." So she starts trying to bully me (again) into leaving my dress there, saying all her pins and markings are already on my dress, and her pins "are her money." I tell her I'm sorry she feels that way, but I'm taking my dress with me, and pick out the closest pins to me and reach to hand them to her. She doesn't even look at me and gestures for me to put them in the container at her feet. I genuinely didn't understand so I said, "do you want these back?" And she nudges the container at her feet towards me, while I'm still in my fitted gown and covered in open pins. So I scrunch down, put them in the container and go change. When I come out, she tells me to hang up the dress so she can check for any more pins, and begins angrily erasing the markings she made with a wet rag. She does this for a long time in silence and very aggressively on my dress to make a show of how inconvenient I was to her, and I just stood there in silence and watched. I won't apologize for something I didn't do wrong and isn't my fault. I was clear on the phone, and she had been disorganized, rude, shamed my body, and talked crap about other women that weren't there to defend themselves.
I respect strong women, especially business owners. However, I will not give my business to anyone who body-shames women, gossips to strangers about private business, bullies to get their way, is elitist about their clientele, or is just overall unkind. Oh. And she quoted me $350 for a small hem in the front, and a bustle. You're cancelled, Cathy. read more