To the owner/management staff at the Whistle Stop,
I am a frequent visitor of your bar. I live just one block away and have spent many Saturday nights or Sunday afternoons with friends at your establishment. I have always had an exceptional time and have been excited to return. That is, until my most recent visit that I have to say was one of the most horrifying events of my adult life.
This past Saturday, I attended the South Park Walkabout with a friend. We had a blast as we walked the streets, connecting with other members of our community. We chose to end the night at the Whistle Stop. In our goofy moods, we were talking to the bouncers and joking with them. We told them we were regulars and that we visit the Whistle Stop all the time (which is true - as I stated before). We could tell by their extremely rude responses that they had no interest in sharing our good mood and jokes with us so we got in line, paid our entrance fee and entered the bar.
We each purchased a beer from the bar and before hitting the dance floor decided to make a stop at the restroom. It was late in the evening, the bar was completely full and the line to the women's room was several women deep. My friend and I stood in the line for a couple minutes all the while, watching the single stall men's room go unoccupied the entire time. So, I chose to use the men's room. I have been in many settings where single stall bathrooms become unisex after the establishment is beyond a certain occupancy and because I had seen the bathroom go unused for several minutes, I assumed this would be ok.
There was not a lock on the door so my friend was watching the door for me. I went in the the bathroom and pulled down my pants and began to pee. As soon as I began, your two HUGE bouncers barreled past my friend, burst in the the bathroom door with flashlights pointed straight at me while my pants were down for the entire bar to see. They told me I needed to leave immediately and I said I would like to finish and pull up my pants first. At that point, the TWO bouncers did not leave the bathroom, yet the kept the door open with the flashlights in my face while I finished going to the bathroom and pulled up my pants. They then grabbed my friend and me (who both weigh about 100 pounds soaking wet) and walked us out of the bar shining their unnecessary flashlights along the way. We were not resisting. In fact, after the entire bar seeing me on the toilet with my pants down, I WANTED to leave and couldn't have gotten out of there quicker.
We were not belligerent, we were not disturbing any one, we were simply using an unoccupied restroom in an over crowded bar. Why were TWO bouncers needed to escort one small, compliant, female off a toilet? Why were they pointing flashlights at me with my pants down when the lights were already on in the bathroom? Why did they not wait outside until I left the restroom to tell me I could not use it again? Why was this means to be carried out of the bar in such an embarrassing manner?
Since this assault, I have been sick with depression due to the embarrassment. I have considered filing a police report which is probably what I SHOULD do, but for now, I would just like for you, along with your future and current patrons to be aware of the harassment I endured from the staff you hired. These bouncers, along with the manager (who ran after me to make sure I didn't identify as transgender) are incompetent bullies who chose to pick on a young female. Your entire establishment should feel the embarrassment that my friend and I felt on that night and that continues to keep me up at night. I hope that self-respecting females will take this in to consideration the next time they consider attending one of your parties and above all, I hope that you will consider some serious changes in making your bar a place where females can feel safe. read more