I'm writing this so customers know what kind of behavior this business enables, specifically from an employee named Ranch, a clear racist who uses her white women concern to attempt to paint me as someone "crazy", "scary", and a "red flag".
After I made a private Instagram story reflecting on a subtle but familiar experience (a white acquaintance asking, "What do you even have to do at your house?") Ranch (who wasn't involved at all) jumped into my DMs unprompted. She dismissed my perspective, argued with me, and then tracked down my phone number to continue harassing me. She called me "crazy," "scary," and a "red flag." Why? Because I expressed a boundary.
I'm a person of color. I've had enough encounters to know when a comment is subtly racialized. But Ranch didn't ask questions or try to understand. She immediately minimized my feelings:
" What is wrong w this question i would wanna know what u have to do too lol"
"Then why u mad at that question lol"
"I think it's much more innocent than u are taking it"
These weren't attempts at understanding. They were tone-policing, gaslighting, and white-centering. Textbook examples of someone who's more concerned with being right than being respectful. When I explained the racial context behind my discomfort, she doubled down:
"I think that's valid to have to prove that ur space is where a person would want to spend their time"
Let's be clear: prove my space is worth it? My house had to be vetted, but she was fine hanging out in bars with sticky floors. That's not about comfort or "safety" it's about bias and white entitlement disguised as preference.
Later, she tried to reframe the conversation entirely, claiming it was about feeling unsafe:
"I firmly believe everyone should be allowed to spend their time how they prefer... especially when leaving their own space and entering someone else's."
Funny safety was never mentioned until she needed an excuse to call me "scary." It's not about protection; it's about control. That's how POC are painted as threats the moment we express anything less than politeness.
And let's not forget:
She accepted homemade brownies from me
Gave me her address to drop off said brownies
Continued socializing with me repeatedly, until I became inconvenient
The moment I expressed discomfort, I was labeled unstable.
Her final text said it all:
"Saying someone isn't worth your time for asking what yall would do together is honestly crazy and scary and u can softblock me for that opinion but it's only solidified my previous decision to not hang out w u. Have a good night and get over yourself."
She used centuries-old racial language to pathologize my boundary. "Crazy." "Scary." "Red flag." These aren't neutral words. They're the same words that have been used to criminalize and silence people of color forever.
If she "had already decided" not to hang out with me, based on what? I had done nothing to her. So what was she reacting to? My identity? My race?
It's the same pattern: the moment a POC expresses discomfort, we're accused of being aggressive. The moment we set a boundary, we're punished. Ranch didn't want a relationship--she wanted performance. She accepted my friendliness, my food, my time. But the second I said "that comment bothered me," I became disposable.
This is racism disguised as "opinion." Control disguised as concern. Fragility disguised as fear.
Screenshots attached. Decide for yourself. But if you're a POC, or care about emotional safety, know what kind of dynamics this business tolerates--and who they allow to represent them. read more