My husband and I have been together for 17 years. We've been to a lot of therapists searching for help for sexual issues. I know better now than I did back when we saw Dr. Sommers in the early 2ks. I was looking up to see if he was dead yet, but since he's not, I would like to offer this warning:
This egotistical, arrogant, ignorant, man made things much worse for us.
We told him our situations: I was working minimum wage, part time. My {husband} then boyfriend has a corporate job full time. He suggested we split the cost of the uncovered 'therapy'.
His approach to therapy was basically to take our money and then sit us in a room to watch 70's soft core porn, episodes of him doing a spot on Geraldo Rivera (possibly from the 80's) and to meditate. He also suggested we do 'dates' where we lightly massage one another for 10 minutes each. And to get 'spicy' we could use a feather.
When I complained about the treatment he was providing and that it wasn't helping, he called me a ball buster. He also told us stories of all the people he had helped, including an 'immigrant' couple he worked with couples who didn't understand that the penis goes in the vagina and he had to explain. (I'm serious)
When I asked him if he could at least find some porn with women that weren't skinny, as I am larger: he said, and I'm not kidding here at all, "It's well known that men are attracted to thin women: have you tried to lose weight? Maybe this is his problem."
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