I'm a father with a child from a previous marriage and have another baby on the way with my new wife. I've gone through "Infant Care" and "Birthing" class at another hospital (Huntington in Pasadena), and now I've gone through the same classes here.
Infant Care class
I forget the name of the instructor for this class, but she was very nice and the class was small, meaning we had lots of time for questions, discussion, going deeper into topics of interest, etc. The information they presented was great, but it skipped a few tips that the other infant care class I've taken really hammered on, namely the "Happiest Baby on the Block" technique for soothing a crying, fussy baby. I found that to be so helpful, I made sure to tell all the other Dads in class to go look it up on YouTube.
My only real complaint, and I don't want this to be more "shaming" than it needs to be, was the way they used gendered language to imply the parent who would be the primary caregiver. Specifically, the language in the class said things like: "Mom, when you call the pediatrician, be sure to tell them THIS" or "Mom, when you're doing a feeding, be sure to yada yada", etc. Sometimes, the language was "parents" or "Mom and Dad", but the majority of the language was instructions to Mom, despite the fact that Dads were present in the room.
In a setting where a new mother and a new father are learning to care for their newborn child, using language that defaults to pushing a mother into a primary role and a father in a secondary role already subliminally defines the roles, placing more weight on one parent and reducing the weight on the other parent's role. I would say this is a fluke, but it's pervasive across our culture (in America? Globally? Humanity?) that on the scales with mother on one side and father on the other, the scales are tipped towards the mother. Personally, I resent that bias, and honestly believe both parents should seek to balance the scales at all times. Simply put: both parents, in this case mother and father, should actively engage and participate in their child's life to the point where if one of them goes out of town, the other doesn't need a lengthy legal pad with notes of when the baby wakes up, how much formula, which outfit to wear, what's the routine, what's the ritual for laying them to sleep, etc. Don't be the parent that needs notes about how your family functions. Mother or father.
Perpetuating the language of specific gender roles is an easy thing to fix, and I'm hoping I'm the only one in those classrooms that takes exception to how that information is presented. Literally all they need to do is remember to include Dad into their directions: "Mom and Dad, when you call the pediatrician, be sure to mention yada yada...."
"Birthing Class"
The birthing classes had plenty of information, in many ways, more information than the other class I had taken at Huntington. I understand no classes are perfect, and you take information as it comes. However, there were moments where I felt the instructor Monica was pushing a specific agenda, namely a more "natural" approach: breast feeding over formula, minimal or no pain intervention over pain intervention, etc.
I can appreciate that, in a medical setting, they want to push the angle that is most medically appropriate, which is generally the most natural approach. However, it seemed like the instructor wanted to be certain that people knew the negatives of possibly non-natural intervention without ever discussing potential complications with refusing medical interventions. Everything seemed to be "Sure you CAAAAAN do this other thing, but here are some of the problems that can lead to." The approval and assurances that non-natural paths were minimal compared to the potential drawbacks and problems created with non-natural paths were imbalanced. (Not a real quote): "Sure, formula is OK, but breast milk is just SO MUCH BETTER for the baby, and it help you [mom] lose weight and bond and so much more." You're creating a wealth of positives that are only derived from breast feeding that mothers who don't want to breast feed are passively knocked for their decision AND mothers who can't breastfeed are left to dwell on the notion their flaws are doing their baby some harm.
I think most people are aware that "natural" paths are probably the best, but maintaining instructions and information that tout BOTH the pro's and con's should be the goal of an educational class in a medical/health setting.
Just one Dad's review. The classes are worth it, but as you'll discover, EVERYTHING with a grain of salt. And please, be sure to check out "Happiest Baby on the Block" on YouTube for great instruction on how to help your baby soothe and sleep. read more