Final Review:
Dr. Nesari blamed me for his dismissal mid-treatment, with different versions of dismissal reasons given in different settings. Lies can be lots of versions because there is only one version for truth. His inconsistent dismissal reasons given are most powerful evidence that he should not have dismissed me from his dental offices when the retreatment was not finished and should have finished the retreatment as he promised previously.
I feel betrayed, confused, abandoned and manipulated, even discriminated. For a long time, I have been pondering whether he would finish the retreatment if I wrote my response letter in a different way, since he used my response letter to his dismissal letter to support his continued dismissal decision. However, he is legally required to be professional, he learned at dental school on how to be professional and ethical. However, as a patient, we have never been trained on how to be a professional patient.... there is no book or course teaching patient how to be a good, professional patient who can make doctors happy. This man is self-centered, with limited human reciprocity, no empathy but loads of ego and defensiveness.
Then, we eventually WENT TO COURT and I WON, HE LOST as a defendant! It is an official acknowledgement that I am right and he is wrong. I should not be blamed by him.
This review is not a review of his dental expertise and dental skills, but a review of how he handled my special case - unfinished work and persistent pain. I believe that he may be a good expert in his specialty, with delicate hands, natural talent for dentistry, and great knowledge. His smiles and calm, chill communication styles were reassuring to patients. However, he ignored a bigger part: He is not only treating teeth or earning money with high-standard services, smiles and responsive emails, but more importantly, he is treating patients who are humans, with emotions, feelings and thoughts. Long-term chronic pain can make patient annoyed but what he did to me, in my eyes, are dismissal mid-treatment, attempts to release liabilities, focus on 5-star reviews, delay in sending all my dental records. If he really wants patient to be happy and no bad reviews, he can just finish the unfinished work last year but he did not.
Dr. Nesari, it is not like buying items in grocery stores where you can easily not sell something to customers who you don't like or return money to customers for items returned. It is not like buying and selling general services when you can end just because of your personal discomfort or "don't want to continue". It is healthcare, built upon inter-personal trust, humanity, care for patient's health and professional, ethical responsibility. I gave you my complete trust, I believe in our collaborative experiment which you proposed, I valued your sentence saying that I'm a scientist. Look at what you've done to me. The most important criteria in science is to keep to the truths, stick to what is right and what is wrong. You know that few other dentists will take over the unfinished work, you know that different dentists can different techniques, you know that shift in operators can ruin all that we've done to the tooth, but you still did those unfair things to me. You manipulatively used my kindness, young naivety and complete trust of a healthcare provider against me and put my health into risks only to serve your self-protect goals. I feel that my previous trust of you and kindness was just a waste, you don't deserve it.
The judgement implies that he should have finished the retreatment, but there is no way to fly back to last year, order him to re-take those responsibilities and to finish the treatment, and let everything develop in a different way.
For many medical professionals, including him, being right, not admitting wrongdoing is much much more important than doing the right thing. They are advised to protect themselves by insurance carriers, by lawyers. But, both the judgement and his own inner heart can make him reflect whether things (this tooth which he took care of for nearly one year) would have a different result, if he did not dismiss patient before retreatment completion.
He knows what he did is not right but will never admit his wrongdoing, hidden in his great ego and in the excuse that "this is a problem patient". But, those cannot mask one unbeatable fact "he did not finish the retreatment which he should".
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