I joined as a Marriott Bonvoy member recently due to the fact that I have traveled with my parents a lot, and they have been members for years. We've always had more than satisfactory experiences through Marriott, so I thought I was picking the right stay for me and my partner. We took a short trip to San Francisco, as we only live a few hours outside of the bay. I booked the hotel room over 3 weeks in advance, and I chose this property because of the early check in availability and the complimentary breakfast in the mornings. I requested check in for around 11 am, and we arrived at around 12:30 or so. When we entered the hotel the first time, there was absolutely nobody anywhere that we could find. There were no receptionists at either of the front desks, nobody behind the counter for food and coffee, not even a janitor. We stood there for at least 15 minutes without being helped or even greeted, and eventually we chose to go back out to sit in the car since we clearly were not going to be helped at the moment. I checked my app and realized it had not input my early check in that I had requested weeks ago, so we chose to request the soonest we could which was 1:45. We went and did some running around and arrived back at 1:50, and when we went inside again we were greeted by the same empty first floor of the hotel. We stood and waited for about 10 minutes this time, when finally we were greeted by a "checking in?" from a younger receptionist walking out of the back of the hotel. I said yes, gave him the booking information, and waited. When he saw I had booked a single bed, he gave me a very strange look and said "you didn't book a double bed?" When I said no, he gave me and my partner another very weird up-and-down, and then started typing again. When we arrived, there were a total of 4 cars in the parking lot. After a few seconds of silence, he told us "there are no king rooms available currently, I can let someone know and you can just check back". He didn't give us a timeline or an explanation as to why a room wasn't ready since I had already requested early check in 2 separate times at this hotel now. He was maybe a few years older than me, In his mid to late 20s I would guess, but clearly the age gap was still enough for him to talk down to me throughout the entire interaction. I didn't want to make a scene so I thanked him and we sat in my car for another 45 minutes until around 2:30. At that point, since all the rooms are supposed to be available for check in at 3 anyways, we figured we would try again. We entered the lobby again and waited another 10 minutes to be helped, and this time an older gentleman (I'm assuming maybe a manager?) and the same receptionist walked out of the back. The manager greeted us with a "are you guys coming to hang out with us?" and then immediately wandered back off into the back of the hotel. This time, the receptionist's tone was even more cold and he barely said anything to us. He sat down at the reception desk, started typing again, brusquely asked for my ID, shoved it back and me, and then shoved the keys at me and said "room number is on the back". Overall, it was a very disheartening experience for the beginning of our trip and for my first time personally booking through Marriott without my parents. When we came back late that night, the receptionist that had checked us in was gone and we didn't see him again. He didn't even have a name tag on so I can't directly include his name, and I didn't want to cause a scene by asking for it. The next morning, when we got up for the complimentary breakfast at around 7:30, we walked down to find nothing in the lobby. I'm not as concerned about the breakfast but it was just incredibly disappointing to me the treatment I received; it is upsetting to think that it was likely because I am a young woman, and also potentially because my partner and I are queer. The rooms were clean and everything else was fine for the trip, I just did not appreciate the staff interactions I had. read more