Let me start by saying that I had a consult, which is only supposed to be 10-15 min. which isn't enough time to know someone or what they struggle with. I had a meeting with Kathryn Alabi who, I guess is the owner of the practice. Cool, great, awesome. While I initially looked forward to this consult after reading her profile on Psychology Today I would say I was severely disappointed. Making assumptions, judgments, and unfounded accusations is not trauma-informed. I am allowed to advocate for myself. I also don't think feel that it is appropriate to talk at and down to someone. Communication is key and it takes two, but I digress. I think she thought somehow I wasn't aware that I know how therapy is supposed to work. Or that I was somehow one of those clients who is uneducated about Mental Health etc.
Whatever the case may be, going to school and or taking trainings does not mean you are able to apply what you learn from books to life that takes time and experience. Another note some people just do the job for a paycheck. Not because they have empathy, compassion, or understanding.
I think clients should be careful paper can look good when it's just inflation or ego and it is important to know the difference because it can do more harm than good especially when entering therapy for the first time.
Therapy is a learning experience both for the practitioner and the client. In a way; like art it is subjective not all ideology, rules, or systems are going to apply to all people or situations. It is important for all parties involved to be open in the situation. Being a therapist the assignment is not to tell someone what to do how to live or when they should be past something. It is to guide, reflect, validate, actively listen, give feedback, create safe spaces, educate, help in making informed decisions, create a space where clients can feel heard and seen, be a sounding board, etc.
Not everyone is for everybody so I completely agree we would not be a good fit while I am more than sure the other therapists at the practice are worth looking into and researching. While I am constantly looking for was I can grow, expand my knowledge, reflect on self, and improve my overall wellbeing, I am not willing to continue in the search. read more