I have never written a Yelp review before, and have gone back and forth about posting this. But I want other parents to know about our experience in case it's helpful.
We pulled my almost-three-year-old daughter out of this school after the first few days of Primary. It was a very bad first school experience for her. We enrolled without a good understanding of the AMI method, which is what this school adheres to, and that was a big mistake. If you're into AMI, by all means go for it. But look hard into AMI before you enroll. It is pretty hard line, traditionalist, old-world stuff. Some of the big things we were surprised by (btw- I will try to stick to the facts here and minimize emotions/judgment):
In Primary rooms, this school doesn't believe in physical comforting of a young child who is sad and crying. So, no hugs, picking up, holding on the lap, etc. Not even in the first days of school when a child is first separating from their parents, not even if a child is crying hysterically in a lump on the floor (which thankfully my daughter was not, but other children were). We learned about this policy accidentally when my daughter told me she was crying at school and I asked if her teacher gave her a hug and she said no. When we inquired, we were told separately by her teacher and the staff that "if we coddle her now, what will happen when she's 16?" We also were told about one of the girls in her class who has cried hysterically every day for two years because that is her "process." When I told a staff member that it seemed like they were breaking a very young child from expecting any comfort from an adult, they agreed with me. Their strategy felt similar to a cry it out method, which I think is a personal parenting choice, not a choice a school makes without consulting parents.
On top of this, we had communication issues, which never feels good when you are putting your child in school for the first time. Staff told us my daughter was crying for five minutes at drop off and then was fine. Our daughter, who thankfully is a big communicator, was telling us she was crying throughout the day. When I went back to staff with this, I was told, "Well, she is not." But then my daughter told me again, and let me know she was going into the bathroom for a "long time" and hiding, covering her ears, because the other crying children were scary to her. We asked her teacher directly and she confirmed that she actually was crying throughout the day and was going into the bathroom for a while each time to "collect" herself. That was the teacher's genuine impression, and I'm sure she thought she was helping my daughter develop some grownup coping skills by not intervening. Clearly, they have a particular method for teaching kids to self-soothe, but they need to be transparent about it - like, in the tour, prior to enrollment - so parents can decide if it works for them. It did NOT work for us. My daughter was just plain scared and confused by the whole thing. I felt lucky she was a good communicator but definitely felt bad for any other families with kids under three who weren't able to articulate what was happening in there and whose parents may not have wanted them in that situation.
Other than the above, a smaller issue that surprised us: many of the beautiful materials you see in the rooms are off limits for the younger kids and there is a strict order about how they are introduced. This isn't the type of Montessori where a child sees something they want to work with and are given a lesson, even though I really feel like the website and tour lead you to believe that it is. Example: when my daughter wanted to use some beads she had played with at the open house, she said her teacher told her she was too young. When I asked the teacher about this, I was told with a chuckle that, oh no, she would not be able to use those for years because they were a math tool. Fair enough, but nobody mentioned that when she played with them in the open house. We mainly chose the school because when she walked into the classroom on the tour, she had so much fun playing with all the stuff that we thought she'd be endlessly entertained. In the three days she was there, she cleaned the leaves of a plant and learned to wash her hands and pour water.
Ultimately, we withdrew because we did not trust the information we were receiving from staff about my daughter and her day, and we did not trust the judgement of teachers and staff to do what was best for her. My advice is to do your research on AMI and trust your gut. If the philosophy aligns with your parenting style, great. But do not enroll because the rooms are pretty and the children play with wooden toys and pour their own water. There are other schools that have that stuff too. My daughter is in one of those now, and she is very happy. read more