Katie and I have been together for about 4 years. We know each other very well. When we decided to start looking for a ring you would have thought that would have made it easy, it was not. When we began several months ago, we did not think our request was too demanding. Katie wanted something non-traditional, natural and elegant. The stone she wanted was a natural blue star sapphire in a delicate, organic setting. After about 6 months of intense searching online and stopping in just about every jeweler we came across, we were starting to feel depressed. Many places had sapphires, but few stars, those that had stars rarely had naturals (which were necessary for their translucent, almost celestial color) and for the few that we did find, they were tarnished, the stars barely visible and small.
We even tried gem distributors and the largest online stores, but still no luck. As for the ring itself, most online sources would not let us design our own for anything within our budget. Some local stores would, but they were very difficult to work with since we knew roughly what we wanted but did not have an exact sketch. We found little patience or understanding. Eventually, we gave up on finding our star and started looking for other more traditional stones, just trying to make it work.
One day after walking through Lincoln Square before dinner, we noticed a jewelry store we were passing was open late and decided to stop in. We had no hopes of finding anything but liked the look of the place and thought why not.
We entered about 30 minutes before closing. When we described what we were looking for to the very friendly saleswoman, the first thing she said was 'I enjoy a challenge'. That was the first positive reaction we had received to our request and it was very welcome. After a few minutes of looking at all the various rings and discussing customizations and changes, as well as their ability to get new stones if they did not have what we were looking for, she introduced Bruce.
By great luck, they happened to have a couple of blue star sapphires in stock, one of which was large and brilliant. Without telling Katie what was going on, I asked her to wait outside (she did not know about the stars). Bruce soon presented the two beautiful natural blue star sapphires, among many others. When he asked what we were looking to set it in, I said I didn't know but had an idea. We had found one setting we liked, but it wasn't quite right.
Bruce starting asking about what form we were looking for, and as we went back and forth describing the changes to the new ring, within 2 minutes I knew this was the person I had been hoping to find. With many, many details he patiently helped an idea that had been frustratingly imperfect take elegant form. He understood what we were looking for and took care in discussing every detail. We completely changed the shape of the ring we started with but the result was magnificent. When we discussed the budget, he was completely open about what everything would cost and made sure to stay within our means. He let me make every decision about what to go with, with no pressure whatsoever.
After we finished discussing the new ring and the many details such as height, how everything would flow, etc, I left a small deposit and walked outside. I told Katie I had found something she would like, but not at all what it was. She was amazed since we had never expected to have such luck so suddenly, based on our experience. I took her sister to see the ring when it was ready only a week and a half later and she described it: 'It is as if you took my sister and put her in ring form.'
The next week, amidst a flurry of distractions and to Katie's great surprise, I proposed at the top of the Hancock observatory. She said yes.
Even if you mess up everything else, the guy has to do one thing right, and that's the ring. To say she loved the ring would be a severe understatement. Every family member, friend, friend of a friend and stranger has complimented it. Katie loved it so much we're using it as the theme for the wedding. The color pallet will be of the blues in the sapphire and the shape of the ring will adorn the decorations and cards.
After months and months of difficulty, rejection, frustration and eventually giving up, we found Stanley Brown Jewelist and with patience and meticulous care, they helped give form to and bring life to everything we had given up.
If anyone ever asks me for engagement ring advice, I will send them to Stanley Brown Jewelist.
Bruce and his wife are the perfect people to work with, no matter how odd the request, how much trouble you've had before or even if you don't know what you want, but know ten thousand things you don't.
They have my highest recommendation and sincere gratitude.
-Bryce Remesch
04/2010 read more