Background: my mother has been rescuing & rehabbing abused dogs for decades, & I grew up watching & helping her train & rehab dozens of dogs. My aunt is a professional trainer. Needless to say, I have quite a bit of experience with trainers, behaviorists & training myself, & never expected that I would need to hire a trainer when I recently adopted my new best friend...but one reaches a breaking point.
Severely abused, my 7mo old Cocker (I'll call him "P") came to me starved, beaten, & (unbeknownst to me) with serious fear-based people & dog aggression. NOT a good mix when ones backyard is a children's park with an off-leash dog section! After 2 hard months of training P on my own we had come a long way, but still I had reached a point of exhaustion & was an absolute wreck, terrified that any moment we were outside P might lose control & I would end up with an injured toddler & massive lawsuit on my hands. Enter Paul, who I initially hired to simply watch me train P & help me figure out what it was I was missing.
Our 1st session took place the 2nd week of Oct. Paul first met P in my home so that he could assess our interactions before we ventured out my front door into the sea of toddlers & tails that is my backyard, & it was obvious from the first that Paul has experience! P reacted as soon as he saw Paul as usual, & without so much as a word from me, Paul instantly had him sitting at his feet with a wagging tail. We headed outside, where Paul spent time watching P's reactions in various settings, assessing P like only a true pro can: he mentally recorded his expressions, ears, stance, hackles, distance it would take P to react, time it would take to calm down, etc. After giving me his impression he took the leash & told me his ideas, showing me what to do as he walked P. We planned to meet again in 3wks. The next day(!) Paul sent me a personalized outline of what we had discussed, what I should do, & what I could expect from P as we started training.
I practiced his advice in earnest, & by Halloween night (only TWO WEEKS) I felt comfortable enough to bring P outside. Surrounded by hordes of children who would routinely run up to play with an adorable puppy, P continually looked to me for instruction on what to do thanks to Paul's guidance on how to get P to look to me first on command, & then automatically whenever he felt overwhelmed.
But P was still struggling with dogs. We met again in the 1st week of Nov., & planned to focus exclusively on his interactions with dogs. Lucky us: the park, normally full of dogs at any given moment, was completely devoid of them.
Paul was not satisfied at all: he had come to work with P on his dog aggression, & thanks to circumstances completely outside of his control he had been robbed of the chance to really work with him how he'd intended.
It was in witnessing his disappointment that night that I really got to learn the most about him: Paul is a trainer who truly loves dogs & is devoted to helping them, & even though he had only met P & I one time, it was clear that he had come to care about our situation a great deal. Helping P & I wasn't "just another job" for him- it was a chance to do what he is so passionate about, which is to help dogs & their owners develop the kind of relationship that changes lives in the way that only a relationship with a dog can.
Despite my protestations and the fact that he had spent hours with me, Paul would not take my money. He simply refused to accept payment for what he felt was a training session left incomplete. So we struck up a new plan & bargain: Paul would ensure that our next session would give P plenty of time to act out his dog aggression, & he would do so by using his own beloved dog as P's test victim. He found a day that same week, & an hour later Paul had analyzed P meticulously. He identified the problem perfectly, & came up with an equally perfect plan. I can only compare it to Clarice analyzing Hannibal (a fitting comparison with P wearing his basket muzzle for half the session), but with more love.
The result of that session & training plan?
I took P with me to spend Thanksgiving wknd with my grandmother & her dog, & he had no (NONE! ZERO!) problems with people aggression despite over 2 doz. strangers at dinner, & played happily the entire visit with her dog. He has also played with numerous other dogs. If those dogs became aggressive, P just sat at my feet each time waiting for direction on how to respond.
Five wks before hiring Paul I was a crying, disheartened mess. P was a terrified, traumatized, isolated puppy. And now I've got a dog who sits by the door begging to be let out to play with other dogs, happy to meet people, with a new lease on life.
In five weeks. In three sessions. And for the next decade+ P is in my life, I will never be able to take him out for a walk without thinking of Paul, & how he changed both of our lives. read more