I traveled from out of state to Illinois to plan my father's memorial service with this funeral…read morehome. During the planning process, I worked with Josh, who was professional, compassionate, and extremely helpful. I am grateful for his care.
Unfortunately, the conduct of the owner, John Maher, during the service was highly inappropriate and unprofessional. While I was delivering the eulogy, Mr. Maher--who appeared intoxicated and smelled strongly of alcohol--interrupted multiple times, shouting phrases such as "Charleston Chews." He continued to disrupt when Pastor Jaime led the prayer. Afterward, Mr. Maher took the floor, spoke incoherently, left, and then returned to speak again. At one point, he came within a foot of my 8-year-old daughter, slapped his own arm, and yelled, "He is in your blood." Many guests later approached me in shock, asking who he was and why he was present.
After the service, Pastor Jaime asked me to extend grace, explaining that Mr. Maher suffered from PTSD but was generally considered reliable. Several staff members also privately expressed concern, stating they had never seen him in such a condition, and later contacted me to ask if I had been able to reach him, as they could not. They voiced worry that his behavior might recur at another upcoming service.
I spoke directly with Mr. Maher, who was initially defensive but assured me my satisfaction was "paramount" and that he would review my bill for reimbursement. After numerous follow-ups, I received communication from his business partner and attorney, who sent me a non-disclosure agreement (with my father's name incorrectly listed) requiring my silence in exchange for a refund. In an email, Kevin stated that upon signing, the refund would be processed within 24 hours. Against my better judgment, and because I wished to give the funeral home the opportunity to improve, I signed the agreement.
It has now been more than 80 days since the service, and no refund has been provided. Instead, I received an email from Mr. Maher, containing multiple typographical errors, stating that there would be no refund and implying suspicion of my intentions.
I need to be clear: I only signed their agreement because I genuinely wanted to give this funeral home the opportunity to take responsibility and improve. But their failure to follow through, combined with the behavior we experienced at my father's memorial, shows a lack of accountability and respect for grieving families. A loss is already difficult enough without the last memory of a loved one's service being overshadowed by an intoxicated, disruptive funeral home owner. Families deserve compassion, professionalism, and dignity during such a painful time--not this