I was sexually harassed in the Livery Stable, and when it was brought to the bartender's attention, he was completely unapologetic and inappropriate.
Longer version: Last Friday night, my friend and I were involved in conversation at the bar when a man walked in who was obviously WASTED. He walked past us, ordered a drink at the other end of the bar, then came over to us and literally inserted himself between us. At first, he was complimenting my friend's hair, then within a minute or two he was telling us how large his penis was, and then he began searching through the photos on his phone so he could show us a picture. We both told him repeatedly that a photo wouldn't be necessary, and no, we didn't want to see it. A moment later he shoved his phone in each of our faces, and he did indeed have a photo of his penis pulled up. Throughout this interaction, which probably lasted max five minutes, my friend and I kept trying to catch the eye of the bartender and another employee who kept walking in and out. Each of them saw us and walked away. (BTW, there were only two other customers in the bar.) The other employee was even stopped by the drunk guy who asked to see a photo of his pet pig, which he showed him, and at that time we thought he would help us out of the situation, but no, again, he walked by us as the drunk man continued to verbally harass and touch us. I created an opportunity for my friend and I to exit the bar and move to different seats--with room just enough for two, and the drunk man went outside.
He returned a handful of minutes later, having downed his drink, and literally threw himself on top of us in our seats. We told him to get off of us and stand up, and when he didn't, we pushed him off of us. After that, he announced that he was drunk enough and would be going home.
After the drunk man left, I went to the bartender and in a low voice told him what had transpired in a "so you're aware" kind of way. One of his first responses was, "he went there that fast?" as if this sort of thing had happened before. Then he began to justify what had happened by saying that this guy was just a regular scumbag, and you know, he wasn't gonna kick him out on his birthday. Then he told me the drunk man was gay, as if that made it okay. "He told us he was bi," I replied, "but either way, we didn't consent to a conversation with him, much less to see photos of his penis." I then explained that we could have called the police but chose to bring it to their attention instead. Then the bartender told us that the police probably wouldn't care if we called them because this guy is a narc, so they like him. He then told us that this man held people at knifepoint, but you know, he wouldn't kick him out on his birthday. He continued to make excuses for the drunk guy and himself, and all the while, my friend and I are interjecting things like, "maybe next time you guys can intercede when this sort of thing happens." I finally restated what had happened with my voice raised loud enough for everyone in the bar to hear as well as the second employee who was now back and behind the bar. This time, the second employee didn't even make eye contact with us.
Realizing we would not get an apology of any kind, we asked for our check, and it wasn't until we were literally on our way out before the bartender uttered "I apologize."
So you know, I guess if you're a Sexual Predator--this place is for you! Totally check it out! If you're anyone else, especially a female who does not want to be sexually harassed, I would recommend ANY OTHER BAR IN DOWNTOWN CHARLOTTESVILLE. read more