My daughter is almost 8 months and started daycare this week. She came home with a raspy voice on Monday (was there from 9am-12pm) and it sounded like she's been screaming or crying but her day sheet said she did great. Tuesday, her voice got worse and I'm starting to worry. Keep in mind that I have been calling multiple times a day to see how she is doing and I'm always told she is doing great but what they tell me over the phone does not match her day sheet, activity wise. I have also been stoping by at least once a day and she's either already napping or about to go down for a nap (always in her crib). I gave them her daily schedule and they weren't following it but I figured, it's her first week and she's trying to adjust.
Wednesday.. the drop off was so tough with her clinching onto me and just crying. I walked away and had this feeling that the daycare workers were not bothered by my little girls screams. I called an hr later and spoke to her teacher who said, everything was fine. I explained to her that I know my daughter has been crying and I just want to keep the communication open and honest so I need to know when she cries the most and how long does it take her to settle down after I leave. She agreed, however I got another "great day" sheet. Also, her feeding and sleeping were off, she was eating 1/4 of what she would have had at home and sleeping twice as much.
Thursday.. I drop her off, she's screaming and crying like everyday. I walked out but decided to wait outside the room to see how they calm her down and long it takes (she can't see me). 10 min in, she is still crying and they are doing nothing other than telling her "it's ok". Finally her teacher picks her up which calms her down a little and takes her into another room where I can't see her so I left. I waited 45 min and went back in. I saw my little girl hyperventilating from crying all by herself in the foam pit while her teacher sat 2 feet away with the other 2 babies who are quiet, doing paperwork, like she can't hear my daughter. I waited a minute and nothing! I ran in to grab my baby and asked the teacher if this is what she does all day, her response "yes". I was livid! They had been lying to me from day one! Instead of helping her adjust to a new setting, they just let her cry until she can't cry anymore and put her in her crib to pass out. When I asked why I wasn't informed that my baby was crying all day, she responded with an attitude, "isn't this what she does at home". I don't know how someone so cold and disconnected ended up in childcare. I wish I was informed of the difficulties my baby was having so maybe I could do something to help with the transition. Needless to say, we are done with Kindercare! read more