I was referred to Dr. Leichtling by my PCP a few months ago and got an appointment quickly in his Pacific Heights basement office. I hear his surgical skills are excellent, and they may well be, but I am never going to find out, because I was so put-off by the horribly sexist way I was treated by this doctor. I showed up at the appointment by myself and he took me into an exam room, took one look at it (my navel) and said kind of shook his head saying, "Your husband is not going to like it if I fix it. It's going to look weird." Because, yes, clearly I make all my decisions about my medical treatment based on how I look to My Man. I was kind of stunned silent and stammered something -- by the way-- no actually mention of my spouse had been made, though I do wear a wedding ring. (Reader, take note, this is foreshadowing). After my stunned muttering, he went on to talk about how weird it would look when I wear bikinis. (Reader, I am 49, on the larger side and ALREADY HAVE A BIG SURGICAL SCAR IN THIS AREA, it's safe to say I am either never going to wear a bikini again, or I DGAS about what scars might show if I did want to wear one. In either case, it seemed more of a condescending wink wink, oh, isn't it hilarious I am pretending this middle-aged fat girl might wear a bikini.)
So, pretty much as soon as I replayed the things he was saying over in my head, I got myself up off the exam table and started to leave. On my way out of the tiny room, Dr. Leichtling grabbed my hand and pulled it up towards his face. Again, I was stunned silent. He looked at my engagement ring and ASKED ME HOW MANY CARATS IT WAS. WTAF.
I came home, totally stewing about how I had not jumped up off the table and would my way out of his basement office immediately, and I posted on Facebook with a very short description (and definitely no names) of what happened, and a friend of mine reached out immediately and said she knew exactly the doctor, and she told me his name, and went on to describe the exact same thing-- winking comments about what the boyfriend would think, bikini wearing jokes (to another middle-aged larger woman) that were condescending at best and YES, comments about her engagement ring.
Perhaps if you are a dude and it's an emergency, you'll probably have good luck, and even if you are a woman and it's an emergency, you might have a decent medical result, but if you have a choice, and are sick of this kind of treatment from men-- run. Run far far away. There are plenty of surgeons in the sea. read more