My son started his XMC journey at 15yo in the summer of 2018. We found the camp online and I showed it to him (videos, posts, and all the information) and he showed interest and wanted to go. Was he nervous, as it was as realistic as it can get, hell yes! But he went and completed the Cadet Basic Training and earned the coveted title of Cadet.
This camp does not mince words in its own description of itself. It is stated up front that this is not a 'kumbayah' campfire experience... it is hard, it is tough, you will want to quit..... but that is the POINT! It is a realistic real-life military situation for teenagers who WANT to be there to be pushed harder and asked to go further than they ever have before. To be CHALLENGED and to gain the personal reward of saying, "I did that."
It is stated up front that if you are sending your teenager to this camp to "turn them around", don't send them. It is NOT a disciplinary camp for delinquents. A large percentage of the recruits make it through the basic training and earn the title of Cadet, but not without hard work, discipline, good attitude and retaining the fact that THEIR LIFE is their OWN DESTINY. THEY control how it plays out. If they push hard, work hard, listen, and participate, they continue.
If they don't work hard, complain, make the experience worse for all the groups around them and dont' adhere to the expectations of the staff and cadre, and most of all - don't participate, then they are asked to leave.
This is explained very clearly in all the materials that interested parents receive as well as parents who have put down the deposit for camp and/or paid in full. If your child acts up and behaves badly, they will be dismissed. Plain and simple.
MY experience.... watching my son (through the FB videos and pictures) go through his first year was intense. Of course I was worried he wouldn't make it - it was hard! But he pushed through and completed it and was SO PROUD of HIMSELF for doing so.
Fast forward to this year : he wanted to go for 2 programs (total of 5 weeks) and then volunteered to fly out 2 weeks early so that he could assist the staff with preparing the camp for all the incoming new recruits and returning cadets. Saying that I was proud of him was a huge understatement.
Now, from afar in CA, I see and hear that he received the award for Honor Cadet for his Combat Engineering group. SO PROUD I could fly.
This camp is NOT for the faint-hearted. It is not for those who want to be entitled to a trophy for participation. It is not for those who think that the experience is a fluff for self esteem. Is is for those who: 1-want to be there, 2- understand that it will be the hardest thing they have yet to experience, 3-realize that they have the control of their own destiny and want to do something that will make them a better person. It has done all those things for the teens (and parents!) who successfully complete it and step up to the challenge.
There will always be those who sign up their child hoping that they will go and return having been "turned around".... and unfortunately, the cadre and staff see through this rather quickly. It is unfortunate, but that is how it is and we are told up front that it is this way. No refunds, no exceptions, no participation trophies. Either they step up and complete, or they don't.
And if they don't? Either you suck it up, buttercup, and realize that you didn't make it because YOU didn't do what was required and try again, OR, you complain and make it everyone else's fault.
By not accepting that your child is the only one to blame for their own behavior, you are enabling them to go through life pointing the finger at everyone else instead of yourself.
Do some children get injured? Of course. The camp has medical staff on site for minor issues that DO happen in the course of physical activity. If it is required, a child may also be transported to a local hospital facility if is its necessary, which can and DOES happen if necessary. We all sign a medical release allowing them to give treatment to our child.
We also sign a release understanding that if our child is dismissed from the program at any time for any reason, we do not get a refund for not allowing a misbehaving child to stay and distract the other challengers. I signed it, as did anyone who has a child participating.
I am a huge supporter of this business, camp, cadre, and environment. I can't give it 10 stars or I would. For those posting these negative reviews because their child couldn't complete it, shame on you. There are plenty of other parents whose kids did not complete the program or were sent home who don't stoop so low to harass and portray an amazing program through mud-stained filters. Start teaching your child how to accept defeat and stop giving up on themselves. Life is never handed to us with a pretty bow in a shiny package. It's given to us plain and simple and its up to us to put in the hard work to make it better. read more