Not a safe space for young women. An older man followed me around, and would not leave me alone. Dance Friday staff were only moderately responsive to my report.
My two friends (one male, one female) and were dancing together for most of the night. An older man with white hair started circling the three of us, with his eyes lasering in on me the whole time. My friend finally commented on his weird behavior and we all went to sit down.
Later on, I heard one song I really like, and got up to dance. The old guy made a beeline for me as soon as he saw me, and got really close to me. I gestured to him to stop (palm towards him, meaning "stop", with a stern look), and went to the other side of the dance floor. He then FOLLOWED ME across the dance floor and kept it right up, dancing really closely and staring at me. I gestured "stop" again, and moved far away from him, and he followed me AGAIN. This dude just would not quit. Then he started waving his hands towards my body, getting close, almost touching me. I left the floor.
At the end of the night, I went and told the facilitators. The younger guy I told just stood there, with an annoyed look on his face that read as "this isn't my problem". The older woman I told said that I should have told her about this at the break (even though my friends and I had showed up AFTER the break). She said something about "filling out an incident report", but she didn't explain the process, meanwhile, people were breaking down the lights and equipment, and it was getting noisy. This woman didn't create a space to deal with the issue, and she made no effort to follow up with me.
She offered me free admission next time, and she said that she hoped me coming again would involve "shifting my experience" of what had happened. This pretty well pissed me off, as it's this harassing guy's BEHAVIOR that needs to shift, not my perception of it. Having been blamed for not reporting an incident before it happened, and having gotten nowhere with the staff, I got my stuff, left, and never went back.
If you are a young woman, do not go! Creepy old men will descend on you, which apparently is just business-as-usual to these people. I imagine they think of it as "breaking down the boundaries" and "being intergenerational", but it's really just a place with poor security, where men are allowed to get away with predatory behavior. Growing old does not magically make a person good! There are creeps of all ages. One of them has white hair and a propensity for circling young women like a creaky old shark at Dance Friday. read more