I wish I could give them ZERO STARS... I will try to keep this as short as possible.
Please do your family, loved ones, and those we have lost and DO NOT USE THEM. Even if you wretchedly, passionately hate that person, please don't.
My Father was an honorable, righteous man who lived with upmost integrity. He cared so much about the world, was a humanitarian at heart, and cared like no other for his family. In May 2014 he was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and fought a strong battle which ended way in December, 7 months later, way before his prognosis.
*** HORRIFIC EXPERIENCE W/ CALIFORNIA MORTUARY!!! PLEASE READ: ***
Due to being new to the area, our devastation, and the shock of his quick and sudden death (8 days earlier he told me I looked beautiful and celebrated my 30th birthday with me, flashing his gapped tooth smile) we were all discombobulated and took a neighbor's (regretful) referral and called California Mortuary right after he passed. John arrived alone and seeing that my parent's room was upstairs, said he needed help and ASKED MY BABY BROTHER TO HELP HIM CARRY MY DAD'S BODY DOWN THE STAIRS. ASLDKFJLKFJ?! I immediately volunteered myself because I knew my brother was not okay with that. We wrapped my Dad in white sheets and MY SISTERS AND I CARRIED HIS BODY while he carried his feet and laid him on the stretcher. John took him away.
Getting the funeral arrangements were fine. We picked a nice casket for him, paid them, coordinated his funeral at our church and his burial at the beautiful Rose Hills Memorial Park.
AT MY DAD'S VIEWING I COULDN'T EVEN CRY BECAUSE IT DIDN'T LOOK LIKE HIM. I had given John a picture and requested for his hair to be as close as possible (it was his signature, he even did it himself a couple days before) and I know they tried but I had even volunteered to go do it myself and it was so off. I know people look different at their viewing and perhaps it's not their fault but he was unrecognizable.
It's a Korean custom to feed everyone who attended their funeral and they knew ahead of time and agreed to do his burial at 4pm.
We show up at Rose Hills and they are there at the top of the hill telling us that we we're late because they need help carrying him ?!?! then asked for volunteers to take him to his burial site SDLKFJ?!?! Okay.. when we get there my Dad's beautiful gigantic flower bouquets were all set up (which his friends had to bring from church). The priest started praying but I was really confused because THE MAN AND HIS ASSISTANT STARTS RUNNING AROUND, STEPPING ON THE BOUQUETS, KNOCKING THEM OVER, STRIPPING THE BOUQUETS OF ROSES (we even asked when making arrangements about ordering those flowers but they said we didn't need to so we thought they were included!)
So it's time for us to lay roses on his casket. THAT'S WHEN THINGS GOT REALLY WEIRD. He kept on saying "HURRY HURRY, FASTER, FASTER" nonstop, SNATCHING THE ROSES as we walked up, BREAKING THE STEMS to put arrange them into a shape. I started getting angry but held back thinking maybe I was just being sensitive and not wanting to cause a scene. BUT WHEN PEOPLE STARTED ASKING WHY HE WAS RUSHING is when I couldn't take it anymore and pulled him aside asking nicely that from now on they please show some respect and stop rushing. Well it didn't end and when it's almost over HE HAD THE AUDACITY TO ASK FOR TIPS!! alksdjfkl?!!! I LOST IT. I PULLED HIM TO THE BACK AGAIN AND WHILE CLENCHING MY TEETH SAID HOW DARE HE DISRESPECT MY DAD, MY FAMILY AND ROB HIM OF A RESPECTFUL FUNERAL AS HE DESERVES!!! THAT HE TOOK THE SADNESS OUT OF MY DAD'S FUNERAL. THAT IS SO HEARTLESS AND I COULD NOT BELIEVE ANY OF THIS. THAT EVEN IF THIS IS A BUSINESS AND MAY BE DESENSITIZED HE SHOULD STILL BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING AND SHOW SOME RESPECT AT SOMEONE'S FUNERAL.
HE SAID I WAS BEING OVERLY SENSITIVE, THIS IS A BUSINESS, HE WOKE UP EARLY TODAY AND BEEN DOING THIS ALL DAY AND WANTS TO GO HOME. HE SAID HE HAS A SON WHO IS MY AGE AND SAID SOME BS ABOUT HOW I'M LIKE HIM.
I TOLD HIM HE WOULD FEEL THE SAME IF HE WAS ME AND THIS WAS HIS DAD'S FUNERAL. AND I CAN'T BELIEVE HE MADE ME DO THIS AT MY DAD'S FUNERAL, THAT I HAVE TO GET BACK AND I WILL TALK TO HIM MORE LATER.
He said NO, that he's leaving. SO I STRAIGHT POINTED TO FINGERS AT HIM LIKE A GANGSTER AND STERNLY SAID "FINE THEN, BUT DON'T WORRY YOU'RE GOING TO BE HEARING FROM ME!"
I can not believe they are in this business. I believe weddings and funerals are two events that should never be ruined. You only have once chance to execute these sensitive, special ceremonies and they should be done with respect.
*I AM WRITING THIS REVIEW IN HOPES THAT I CAN HELP SAVE SOMEONE OF AN EVEN BIGGER HEARTBREAK DURING A TIME OF DEEP SORROW AND PAIN. *
Edit: One more thing. I have tried so hard to conceal this from my Mom who is struggling to find a will to live. But what can I do when friends & family ask us who that guy was and how he was so rude and disrespectful??? read more