Our appointment at Hope Advanced Veterinary Center was a very poor experience. We saw the…read moreoncologist, Dr. McNeill.
I attended this appointment to receive a thorough specialist consultation and a review of the growth my cat had. Her blood work was stable and her behavior at home was normal. The consultation fee alone was $298.00 (excluding medication).
Upon entering the room, Dr. McNeill stated he 'saw the picture' and observed my cat while she remained inside her carrier. He did not remove her from the carrier to perform a physical examination, but immediately recommended euthanasia.
When I tried to discuss interim comfort options and set boundaries regarding the conversation, my limits were overridden:
As he kept pressing euthanasia while I was trying to process, I tried to set a boundary. I smiled (to deescalate), 'Are you not going to let us leave until we agree?' Dr. McNeill continued to focus the conversation entirely on immediate euthanasia.
I tried setting a firm boundary (a second boundary) regarding our immediate plans, stating, 'Okay, well, we are not going to be doing that today. So, what can be done in the meantime?' He noted pain medication was an option, but followed by asking, 'But, then what? She has that for a week? Then what?'
On a third attempt to enforce a boundary, I stated, 'Okay, well, when we do euthanasia, we have a process....at our primary veterinarian.' He then said, 'Okay, what does that look like?' Asking me to recount the past experience. He asked me if he could call them immediately to 'let them know I was coming'.
I explicitly held a fourth boundary and requested that he NOT call, stating that we would coordinate with our primary veterinarian directly. According to the medical records I later requested, he contacted them regardless of my request.
In order to secure the pain medication for my cat's immediate comfort, I was required to recount a previous, highly difficult pet loss experience in detail. As a trauma survivor, recounting such negative experiences is not something I take lightly, and forcing an owner to do so just to obtain comfort medication is entirely unnecessary.
Additionally, Dr. McNeill spent a portion of the time evaluating my sister's level of verbal agreement with his recommendation. He looked at us and stated words to the effect of, 'You, yes,' to me, and 'You, not so much,' to my sister, based on how much we were agreeing with him. He did not confirm who the actual owner of the patient was.
Despite paying for a specialist consultation, I left without a definitive diagnosis or an explanation regarding her stable blood work. I had to request her medical charts and do my own independent research at home to get more information.
Please also note that this clinic uses an automated audio system to record conversations in the exam room for transcription purposes, which staff later confirmed over the phone. I was not verbally asked for consent prior to the recording, and because the location of the microphone is not disclosed, I do not know if private conversations between my sister and me were recorded while the doctor was out of the room. I am a private person, so for me, this is completely unacceptable. I have no idea where or how that data is used.
I am sharing this factual outline so other families can make an informed choice about what to expect from a consultation here.
I found it deeply saddening, not for the news that I received, as you do not visit an oncologist without understanding possible outcomes. I am sad about how it was handled and the unnecessary stress it put on me, my family, and of course, my beloved cat.
I request that a hospital manager do not reply to this post.