I am so sad that i have to write this review, especially since this restaurant is my partner and I's "go-to" spot. Today on 12/11/2022 my partner who is a transgender black male and I decided to go on our weekly date night to applebees in okemos MI. . When we entered we were greeted and seated and soon after our waiter came in. Our waiter already had weird energy upon seeing us, my significant other ( who is transgender) decided to order a drink. The server goes on to ask for his I.D (Which is completely normal). upon my partner showing his I.D which still has his original female name, the waiter goes on to speak fairly loud , calling out my partners female name from his ID. He is loud and bringing attention to the table while looking back and forth between my partner and his I.D. and saying " WOW! SO... THIS IS YOUR REAL NAME?" and asking more questions. at this point we are very uncomfortable and looking around to make sure not too many people are looking at us. after handing the I.D back and my partner ordering his drink, he then ask for the I.D again, for the 2nd time. My partner gives him back his I.D and he looks again for a long time. Soon after handed it back the waiter then goes on to take our order, at the end of taking the orders he turns to me and ask for my I.D, I then go to ask him why when I have not ordered a drink. He tells me that this is their policy, I told him that this has never happened before, and I will not. In my mind at that moment I am still shocked from his previous comments and demeaner, so I felt as if he was picking, due to his blatant discomfort in my partners identity. After respectfully declining his request, the waiter goes to the back and grabs his manager Scott who comes back and reiterates the policy to us. I told him I understand the policy now since I know, but this seems weird that all of a sudden they are enforcing a policy after seeing my partners I.D, and making those uncomfortable comments. Scott refuses to listen, and keeps bringing up the policy. We were trying to let him know about the uncomfortable interaction between his employee and us, and maybe a more understanding approach to people in situations like this next time. Again Scott would not hear of it, so we politely got up and left as to get away from the whole fiasco. I am NOT angry at the policy or the enforcement of the policy, it is the fact that we are Africans American people, and apart of the LGBTQ community and it seems as though etiquette and empathy of the situation was not involved in this situation. My partner has had a hard journey, and even being brave enough to actually show his I.D knowing that he identifies as a separate gender now is a hard thing to do in itself. To be ousted, and embarrassed in that way and the lack of empathy, knowledge and understanding from not only the server, but the manager Scott is alarming to me. A course on etiquette in situations with transgender and minority people is very much needed, especially in the world we live in right now. At the end of all of this we left in tears , embarrassed, and disappointed , now I am having to recover and also be strong for my partner during this time which is going to be a task. I have visited this establishment plenty of times and am so hurt that this happened and we now will never feel comfortable enough to go back. Applebee's is this what things have come to now? I hope no-one ever experiences this ever again, please be warned. read more