We didn't enter into couples therapy because we were in dire straights but because there were issues in our relationship that would repeatedly come up that we didn't know how to address. Instead, we kept side-stepping them, blowing our lid every once in a while, and then going back to normal. We were both surprised that Randall wasn't attempting to teach us communication tools. That's what we assumed couple's therapy was about. Instead, he worked individually with us while the other person listens and observes. Because he's such a gifted listener, he managed in the most delicate of ways, to guide us to that which was at the center of what we were struggling with as individuals. His capacity to sense and find expression for that which was behind our words was quite extraordinary, but the work didn't end there. The partner not working with him in a given session would silently watching on. As we watched one another reveal our tender bits, we developed a more deep-seated understanding of each other. Through observing one another being worked with by Randall in this way, we have developed an appreciation for one another's character traits, particularly those that stymied our relationship Instead of stepping away, we have naturally developed the capacity to step toward one another. Randall is a gifted therapist, certainly one of the most talented we've worked with. We have been working with him for three-plus years. His capacity to enable us to feel understood is unsurpassed. Listening is a form of art, and he's a master. read more

Randall is a profoundly effective therapist. His work gracefully blends a keen understanding with a tender compassion. No matter what parts of my life I bring to him, I feel seen and respected and valued. He fully meets me where I am, yet then skillfully engages me from a deeper place within myself that has more potential than I had realized. His words create a sense of freedom inside of me. I work in the field of personal empowerment and communication skills, and over the past six decades I have been fortunate for the support and guidance of many counselors, mentors, and coaches. From this broad experience I recognize Randall to be an extraordinarily insightful and clarifying personal guide. I am a better version of myself for having Randall on my team. read more

My wife and I have been seeing Randall, both individually and together, for at least 8 years. I very much enjoy working with him. He has a great sense of humor and flows easily between the personal and the professional. He's smart, worldly and comfortable in himself. As a professional counselor, I find him to be a very careful and discerning listener, very good at distilling the essence of an experience or discussion, and very good at formulating recommendations for changes in action or attitude. If I have a complaint, it would be that he's too good at coming up with recommendations for each issue or experience. For me, a few big, simple guidelines, consistently pounded into my thick skull, work better than the many detailed recommendations contained in my meeting notes. That said, I heartily recommend him to others. read more

Writing as a therapist and psychoanalyst for the past four decades, I want to praise the work of Dr. Alifano, whom I call Randall. I've been with him as a client for 13 years, and its not enough. I continually learn from him, enjoy his wisdom and humor, and relatedness. He uses no jargon, meets you where you are, and is very present. These are all qualities that matter in a therapist. He also doesn't hide his truth. He tells you like he sees it, sensitively of course. I believe we change for the better if we learn to speak our truth and Randall is a guide and mentor for this openness, transparency, forthrightness. He zeros in on the major issues and his aliveness and vitality are a delight. If you call for an appointment, and he's full, I believe he will try to fit you in. Otherwise, it can be worth the wait. read more

Randall has been our therapist over the last 2 years and a has been a true life saver during COVID! He is a wonderful therapist and person. We cannot really express the amount of personal and couple progress that we have done in these past years with him. As a therapist he has a wide range of tools that will allow you to access deep parts of yourself and work towards personal progress and happiness. We are both grateful to have such a wonderful person in our lives. read more

Randall Alifano and I have been colleagues for many years. We have written together, taught together, read each other's work, studied together and discussed therapy and consultation for many hours. I couldn't recommend him more highly. I would happily refer my family members to him (and have already done so) and anyone else who is seeking a sensitive, highly intuitive, and experienced counselor. In short, Randall is brilliant; a warm, caring individual with great empathy for his clients. I trust him as much as anyone I know. Kim. Chernin, Ph.D. read more

Dr. Randall Alifano has seen me through one divorce, one marriage, the birth of two kids, and major career changes. I can't imagine what I would have done without him. He is remarkably insightful, respectful, and kind and I trust him completely. If everyone would just go talk to Randall, I am certain the world would be a better, happier, and far more peaceful place. read more

Dr. Randall Alifano has been a counselor, a spiritual guide and, indeed, a friend, on-and-off for over a decade. During that time he has helped immeasurably with my personal growth and with my behavior in the world. He has supported and guided me through some excruciatingly hard times, and has shared many joyful times with me as well. The main reason for the success of our relationship is, I think, that I simply sense that he likes and enjoys me! So I feel quite relaxed, comfortable, and supported in relating anything that comes up for me. That feeling means a lot, and it's followed me in many and varied explorations of my personality. These days we seem to be doing much exploring of where I feel myself to be on the planet and in the universe. That's more "spiritual," I suppose, but actually, it's simply more expansion of what Randall can bring to my consciousness, just by the great way he knows how to ask questions. The journey is exhilarating and I expect it never to end. I have recommended friends to Randall as well, in the hope that their fit and match with him might be as successful as mine. Insofar as that occurs, a relationship with him will be wonderfully rewarding. Maxim Schrogin read more

Words can't express my gratitude and admiration for Dr. Randall Alifano, but I'll try. The blessings that define my life today - stability, happiness, intimacy, trust, peace - things that eluded me for most of my life, are a direct result of the many hours I've spent with Randall. While it took me years to get this far -- I can be stubborn -- there wasn't one hour that I didn't feel we were getting closer. I've never met anyone quite like Randall. He is more engaged and less programmatic than a shrink, more earthy and less dogmatic than a "guru," more holistic and wise than a "life coach." He is my friend and my teacher and one of the few people I've ever met who seems to know how to live in this world. He's waiting to share that knowledge with you. All you have to do is show up. You'll be forever grateful that you did. read more

I have known Dr. Randall Alifano for over 25 years. Would I trust this man with my life? I did. He literally saved my life while processing memories from a horrifically abusive childhood. To say that I would not be here now if it wasn't for Randall is not an exaggeration. If you're looking for someone who will agree with your opinions when you're wrong, this is probably not who you're looking for. If you are looking for someone who will gently guide you through your feelings and help you achieve your greatest potential, then he is who you want. This is a man that is as compassionate as any human being you will ever meet. He will be there for you when you need him, even during times when you push him away. Randall knows when to back off but he doesn't let go. He knows when to push but he never shoves. This is a man that has been there for me when it was not convenient, but he was there. This man has a heart that is so genuine, it's sometimes hard to believe that there are still people like that in this world - but there are. He provides spiritual guidance, therapy, unconditional acceptance, a safe environment and on top of all of that, he is a man with a sense of humor. I would not hesitate to recommend him for any kind of counseling or guidance that you are looking for. read more

My experience with this therapist was one of supreme frustration. I went to see him with my former girlfriend in an attempt to work out some issues. He came across at first as fair and focused on the complexities of the situation, however, after the third session I began to see that Randall Alifano was not disposed to zero in on the major issues my partner manifested that had been sinking our relationship. Despite at least three concrete examples of her behavior I found inexplicable and damaging (hoping I would gain an understanding in therapy), Randall sidestepped each one and instead focused on my reactions rather than her actions. By session five I realized that the bottom line at the end of each day consisted of Randall instructing and prodding me to adapt to her temper and need to control rather than addressing her temper and need to control--and no matter what evidence, anecdotes, or signs of frustration that were sent his way by me. By session seven I was actually becoming angry and fed up with his transparent bias. At one point, my partner flared angrily at me during a session after I related a story of her unreasonable temper, and I noted, "She does this quite often when confronted with these issues," to which Randall replied, "Well, that's just your perception." To which I replied, "Well, she just did it." To which he replied, "That's your opinion." To which I replied, "Yes, and I'm sticking to it, and this is what I've been telling you from day one." To which he replied, "That is just your perception." To which I replied, "Are you insinuating I am delusional?" To which he replied, "I see no reason to go down this road. That's ENOUGH!" Randall Alifano, when faced with someone who resists his will, verges on abusive. On two occasions, in mid sentence, he shut me up in a rude and unprofessional fashion. He silenced me because I was making it harder and harder for him to deny the reality, but of course, that is just my opinion. And it went down hill from there. When finally faced with the reality of my partner's temper right before his very eyes, he sidestepped it, pretended it didn't happen, and once again refocused his energy on convincing me to accept the situation and adjust to it. Why wasn't I doing what Randall wanted? Why did I keep bringing up the same issues after Randall made it clear I should adjust to her actions and speech rather than feel hurt, humiliated, or uneasy? I highly recommend staying away from this absurd, politically correct therapist,and only perhaps seeing him if you have a mild issue. See him for heterosexual partner issues at your own risk, and if you are male, don't expect fairness. Money down the drain. In the final analysis, Randall Alifano reinforced my partner's behavior and gave her leverage to further find fault with me while dodging and denying her own destructive behavior. Not only did his "therapy" not work, it actually irritated the situation. read more

As both a client and colleague, I have known Randall Alifano for 20+ years. Initially my boyfriend and I saw him for 2 years to help us deal with patterns that had prevented each of us from finding successful relationships in the past. His particular style enabled us to go more and more deeply into our individual fears, blocks and past traumas. With gentleness, warmth, humor and attentiveness plus the ability to help us confront ourselves, we were able to form a deeper relationship than either of us had ever known. After 20 years of marriage my husband died suddenly. In my grief and anxiety I returned to see Randall who, with perfect attunment, accompanied me in my anguish and helped in my gradual healing . As a psychotherapist, I have referred many people to this amazing man. He combines exquisite skill with utmost authenticity and a spiritual orientation where appropriate. I can think of no other therapist whom I respect more than Randall. read more

I saw Randal Alifano for psychotherapy for about 5 years 12 years ago, then returned to see him again a year or two ago when I wanted some additional support. Working with Randal has changed my life - he has helped me significantly reduce anxiety, deepen and strengthen my relationships, have more fun, trust myself more, excel in my career, and free myself from unhealthy and painful patterns with my biological family. Randal is a wonderful therapist - attentive, intuitive, warm, funny, smart, and creative. He is so skilled at working with the deep emotional stuff, yet he can bring a light touch and sense of humor that helps to make the deep and sometimes painful healing process manageable. He is rock solid in his presence and I always know that he is there for me. I am very spiritually oriented and Randal is able to integrate spiritual awareness into all of our work together. During my break from individual therapy, my husband and I saw him for several months for couples therapy. Awesome! - that's all I can say about his capacity to work with couples to help foster intimacy and growth. I recommend Randal highly and without reservation. read more