A few Sundays ago would've been my 3rd day attempting to attend GA. I already felt guilty for not attending frequently and you know how those initials steps are crucial just to get there. I was wondering if you have video/audio of room 3 from yesterday.
Anyway, I got there are 3:30pm, thinking it started at 4, and there was a lady there in the left corner. I said hi, and asked for the restroom. Soon after we got to chatting, she said her name was Terry, I introduced myself, And I told her how this was gonna be my third time I think that was first. I told her please don't judge me, cuz she was just looking at me. I already deal with anxiety and it made me uncomfy. But then progressively she got more irritated and anxious I guess cuz no one was there yet and that she was worried there wouldn't be enough seats or some junk and she had like 3 seats saved it was really weird. Then her friend came in and I just smiled at him and then they got to talking in the corner and it was all weird and secretive and I felt uncomfy, then the next man came in, I tried engaging in conversation with her and her friend, and she didn't reply, her friend had to. It was very odd. She was then talking to the new guy who runs the group and very loudly and obnoxiously. By this time I feel really unwelcome and my social anxiety was topped off. Clearly, the hen of the house, Terry, didn't like newcomers there, or has a problem with new women attending group. and for me, we women should be more welcoming. I got my things and left. I hope you had enough seats, Terry!
I didn't appreciate this at all.
The last two meetings I went to the gentleman were so kind to welcome me, but this from a fellow woman is unacceptable.
Thanks for hearing me out.
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Reply:
Hello,
I will not presume to speak for anyone's behavior that I did not witness. All are welcome at Dallas Pathways on Sunday. We had two ladies for their first meeting and they were well received. GA places principles before personalities. I have had to learn to deal with a variety of people and a few uncomfortable situations in GA. I learned by listening and sharing with those I do not agree with or understand. GA places the message of abstinence and recovery above the messengers. You claim that we failed you. Please consider giving us another chance.
Consider online meetings as social anxiety may be an issue for you. Remember that you rejected the Pathways phone list offered to you that has the online information. It is strictly prohibited to record or screenshot any GA meeting. Pathways does have an online component.
I wish you the best in your abstinence and recovery from resources both in and outside of GA.
Sincerely,
GA coordinator - Sundays
Dallas
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My reply: I don't appreciate you finding fault with me not taking a phone list. Also very judgmental and unnecessary. ---didn't include this last bit but I've gone to non spiritual associated groups that treated me better than this last time with that Terry lady. So unkind and very loud and seems as if the attention must be on her at any given moment. So strange for what is to be a group thing. Thumbs down Terry. read more