Today marked the end of the longest and worst year of my life. After 7 years, my ex wanted a…read moredivorce. I tried everything I could to work things out, mostly for the sake of our almost 6 yr old awesome little boy, but also because I truly loved her. I tried to be as amicable as possible, but she was hell bent on trying to take everything I had worked for all my life. And though I travel often for work, I like to think I am a great dad, who loves his son very much. But she was barely agreeable to Standard Possession, and at times even threatened to fight for me to only have limited time with my son. She got extremely out of hand, made wild accusations, and overly complicated every little thing. She initially used some online service to print up her own decree. After reading her draft, that was extremely weighted on her side, I decided I needed an attorney. That's when the bad dream turned into the nightmare.
She got angry that I didn't just cave in, and she got an attorney as well. She had already been taking bad advice from her friends and family, but her attorney made it worse. Not because she was a good attorney, but because she was inexperienced, and NOT a family law attorney. They asked for things that were out of the norm, made demands for irrelevant information, filed for things that were out of order and unnecessary, etc.. If my ex had used an experienced family law attorney, at least they may have been able to keep a bad divorce from turning into the year long hell that this has been.
I had asked a friend for the name of the attorney that he had used during his divorce and was given the name Jared Julian; the single best referral I have ever received. Jared consulted with me and made me feel confident in his experience and ability immediately. He and his associate Lindsey Wilson were guiding, counseling, and advising me every step of the way. Through the roughest hell I have ever been through, Jared and Lindsey gave me solace knowing I had the Julian Firm on my side. The entire staff that I worked with, Jennifer, Jennifer (or as I call them, Jennifer2), Chelsea, and Jasi. They all showed genuine care and understanding for what I was going through. It sounds odd to say, but theirs is best service I have ever received, that I hope I never need again.
I never wanted to get a divorce. When it became obvious that there was no hope of reconciliation, I was just hoping for it be fair and equitable. My ex made it so that I had to fight for that result. I don't think anyone ever gets the outcome they're hoping for in a divorce. I think the best you can hope for is that you're left a chance to rebuild your life. I was given that chance. The financial part was worked as equitable as possible. But most importantly I was able to get the maximum amount of time with my son as possible. I hope that no decent man ever has to go through a painful divorce. But if you do, you will not find a better advocate than the Julian Firm.