Wendy was the most unprofessional therapist I have ever spoken to. We were on her waiting list for…read moreover 8 months. I was looking forward to working with her. I have an 8-year-old daughter, I am divorced, and we share custody. When we were married, we were in a toxic environment full of psychological violence, which eventually escalated to physical violence. I filed for divorce in February 2021, had a 2-day trial at the end of 2022, and my divorce was granted in 2023. After presenting all the evidence, I was named the primary custodian of our child (70-30 custody) and the one responsible for making decisions regarding her mental health.
During the intake call with Wendy, both parents were required to be present. My ex started ranting about how selfish I am because we don't have 50/50 custody and I receive child support. Wendy put me on the spot and asked why I wouldn't want to meet in the middle and agree to give up some custody and child support so we "could get along better," essentially placing the blame on me. I was SHOCKED, and when I said I was NOT going to give up time with my daughter, my ex began to point out how awful of a parent I am, saying something like, "Can you see?! That's why we have problems."
Wendy then told us that if we couldn't get along, she couldn't help the child. I'm sorry, but there's a reason we are divorced, there's a reason I have primary custody, and there's a reason I am the one who makes decisions regarding her mental health. Wendy was completely out of line for bringing this up. It was a major red flag, and I decided not to bring my daughter to see her.
I have been to therapy before, and I have never heard a therapist tell me that if parents don't get along, they can't help the child. Since then, I've also been harassed by my ex, who insists that I "give it a try" with Wendy. Now he's dragging me back to court, claiming I'm not doing what's best for our daughter as Wendy advised (which, according to him, means giving up custody time and child support).
So, RUN... RUN away from this woman who should NOT be providing therapy to anyone. Quite the opposite--she should be seeking therapy herself.