TL;DR: Unfortunately, I'm leaving this 1-star review because what happened to me should never happen to anyone. This review isn't about me; it's about making sure others are aware and protected. After 2+yrs of positive experiences, I quit this gym because I felt HARASSED by the SUNDAY ALPINE INSTRUCTOR at the time (Spring 2025) who shouted/cursed, and tried to intimidate me after I set a boundary in class. He repeatedly acted in ways that felt inappropriate, unprofessional, and manipulative to me. Despite multiple complaints from others, the gym seemed to normalize/enable his behavior, eroding the culture.
This whole situation was extremely disturbing and unfair.
(Be aware: This instructor also offers personal training in Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, etc.)
*To anyone unsure about reporting harassment: do it. It's usually repeated behavior, and you're not alone; silence enables abuse.
I'd barely interacted with this instructor; I was just there to work out.
That day, he made repeated, unwanted comments: "You smell nice," "Your shoes are nice," "Your glasses are nice," "You are nice." I felt uncomfortable. Trying to defuse the situation politely, I quietly joked that I need headphones to block out the comments.
Suddenly, he screamed at me at the top of his lungs, "FUCK YOU TOO!" in front of ~20 people, followed by laughing at me.
No one stepped in. (Bystander effect or enabling?)
This felt like an attempt to intimidate me because I set a boundary. Worse, he manipulated the situation by adding "TOO," as if I had cursed at him, so that others would think I was at fault, which I never was.
I froze in shock/disbelief but chose not to escalate the situation, out of respect for the others. He continued making me uncomfortable. During the Superman exercise, he stood directly behind me and said disturbingly: "Stasia, I see you. I see you."
(Some describe his communication style as "no nonsense". To me, it didn't feel like "no nonsense"; it felt abusive and inappropriate.)
After class, as if nothing had happened, I found him manipulative again; he had the audacity to offer me someone else's cookie. He never apologized.
...Would all of this have happened if I were a 6‑foot man?
I sat in my car for an hour afterward in shock, before driving aimlessly for 2 more hours trying to process what had just happened.
WHAT WAS I PAYING MY MEMBERSHIP FOR: TO BE YELLED AT, CURSED AT, AND TO FEEL HARASSED BY AN INSTRUCTOR?
I believe he targeted me because he assumed I wouldn't push back and perceived me as "nice"; when I asserted a boundary, he responded with aggressive defensiveness. While his language is never clean, his behavior in this instance was far worse; it felt like a deliberate abuse of power.
This wasn't the first time I felt he crossed the line. In the past, while I was doing push-ups, absolutely without any reason or permission, he suddenly touched me and tucked a strand of hair behind my ear (so creepy!). Recently, he unexpectedly pinched a bruise on my back while I was exercising. After I returned from a long break, he immediately singled me out in front of everyone, putting me on the spot, and later asking where I had been. (Some described him as "playful," but to me it always felt like he was playing deliberate, manipulative games.) I've also witnessed him verbally mistreat a group of females, which I intervened in, and made them feel comfortable.
He typically just walks around, chats, and tries to become your "friend"; he doesn't really give exercise advice. But I also found his behavior came across as manipulative, moody, or insecure: cursing, trying to assert power, or acting as the victim at times. It felt like he is overcompensating for smth.
I believe his behavior had become normalized since even regular attendees and some staff stayed silent. I messaged a staff member and a frequent class participant about the incident; neither replied. This felt like the issue was being silenced which was disappointing. (Thankfully, my gym friends and another staff member were appalled and supportive.)
SO, WHAT DID THE GYM DO? Nothing. Leadership simply asked him if so and so happened. He claimed he "didn't recall," which I believe was a lie. That was the end of it; no suspension, no discipline, no termination; nothing. The gym chose not to act further, which made me feel as if the issue was silenced. He has been with the gym for 10+yrs, and others had filed multiple reports against him and were disappointed by the lack of action (incl. on Yelp). My experience might have been prevented if the gym had taken earlier complaints more seriously, and I would not have needed to write this review.
I liked this gym. But after the incident, realizing how normalized this behavior has become, and seeing him not held accountable, I was very disappointed.
I hope the gym reflects on this and chooses to do better because no one should ever feel harassed in a place where they are supposed to feel supported. read more