Those who speak ill of our/others' teachers, practice and lineage, be they 'high' monks, lamas, or ordinary students, we must be aware of them and let it pass into one ear and then out from the other. Have compassion for that person, do not engage or ask any more questions and smile and let it go. If others comment that there is something wrong with our teachers and practice that we have already forged a samaya with, then what can stop others from saying they can be wrong also even if they may be high ranking monks or simple students. When does it stop?? Either all the gurus are to be respected and the bond between them and their students held sacred or we must be a perfect omniscient living Buddha to criticize, judge and talk negatively and check who is 'genuine' and not 'genuine.' Would a perfect Buddha do that anyways? Who in true Buddhistic practice can run around proclaiming they are a living Buddhas and condemn others? People who are incredible examples of selflessness such as Mother Teresa proclaims herself to be a simple nun or a pencil in God's hand. H.H. the 14th Dalai Lama always says that he is just a simple Buddhist monk although more than fourteen million Buddhists of the Tibetan Tradition believe him to be Avalokitesvara. Panchen Lama who tirelessly worked for others never called himself Amitabah although so many believed him to be.
So once we are able to criticize another practice, teacher, tradition, deity, center, temple, church, student, etc. then we leave ourselves open for criticism and schism, because in the end who is right and who is wrong?? Leave people in peace. When we criticize another tradition/practice/teacher it also shows that we are perhaps highly insecure about what we are doing so we need more people doing what we are doing to feel 'right.' Or give us security maybe? Only study, reading, practice, holding vows and attending Dharma talks to get knowledge is what will really give us security in our practice based on sound logic. A person like that never criticizes others but rejoice, because when you reach a higher state of practice and knowledge, you see the oneness/sameness of the goal, only method differ and rejoice at the skillfulness of the masters in offering diversity to different sentient beings. We would never want to harm another being. Otherwise one would create the karma of being separated from one's own teacher and teachings, unable to practice and gain results, anger and fear increase in the mind and great insecurities due to resultant karma of schismatic actions of speech and mind. People who have taken refuge or accepted another to be their teacher or practice, we must encourage them towards what they have already committed.
When we appoint ourselves as the 'spiritual police' to 'take action' against the people following 'wrong' lamas and 'wrong' practices, we create something very dangerous. We create tremendous disharmony, doubt and aggression. We breed and justify intolerance which is the opposite of Lord Buddha's infallible Dharma. We must search into ourselves and check the level of our own practice, our motivation. If our motivation and practice is supreme and perfect, then very skillful methods are extremely necessary to guide others. People's spiritualities are very delicate and must be handled with care combined with compassion. Do not criticize their practice, teacher or tradition in any way. You just need to police yourself. Just remain in your practice and resolve to gain full enlightenment to benefit them in the future. Spiritual policing should be left to Mahakala, Setrap, Palden Lhamo, or maybe other Enlightened Beings perhaps.
I was asked, after the fact, to not perform any puja, water bowl offering or even ringing of bell and handling of my own dorje. Respectfully this is the temples rules. However, I wish they would have had a sign that state the no personal instruments of worship are permitted and use of theirs is also forbidden. I did a water bowl offering, prayed, meditated and did a puja for something very personal. I felt really happy and calm then to be told my practices are not acceptable at this temple hurt my feelings. Best of luck to Guang Ming Temple. I am not speaking ill of them at all. Just should have been handled more appropriately. The Venerable didn't even talk to me about the issue. She had a young man (who didn't introduce himself) tell me while he was speaking with the Venerable on his cell phone. My feeling were hurt and I was shocked. But I still have compassion, hope, love and a personal understanding of the teachings of the Buddha. read more