A bit of ambivalence concerning this particular cemetery...not for any objective reasons, really, but rather subjective, and personal. So far as I know, my maternal grandfather was the first to be buried here, and he died years before I was born. So I have early memories of coming here with my mother, sister and grandmother to visit the grave (my mother and grandmother are now buried here themselves). I remember my mother saying there were plots here for all of us, and my sister, with an odd nonchalance that I guess must be typical of the very young, said, "Wow, so I have a grave waiting for me!" And I guess I do too. My mother is buried here now, both sets of grandparents, my father's best friend, my cousin, a great uncle, and assuredly others with some connection to me. In all probability, this is where I'll be buried when I die (not to be morbid, but it is what it is). And...this isn't where I'd necessarily choose to be buried. Not for any objective reason, but just because...well, who knows? Although...if you're non-religious...dead is dead, and it doesn't really matter where they bury you, does it? And if you're religious...the body is just a shell, the spirit has left to a hopefully better realm, and it doesn't really matter where they bury you, does it?
I have to confess that I've never been a fan of the name "George Washington" for a cemetery. Not that I'm unpatriotic, or feel that Washington wasn't one of our great Presidents, but it just seems odd naming a cemetery after a statesman/politician. The cemetery is non denominational, so a religious name isn't in order, but how about "Willow Grove," or "Whispering Pine Acres," or "Paramus Memorial Park," or something similar? I mean, where do they bury departed prisoners, criminals, felons and murderers--- "Richard Nixon Memorial Park"? Not to sound as if I'm mocking or being disrespectful, but it's not something I've ever really been comfortable about. There's a large statue of Washington on the grounds, and a painting of him in the cemetery office (as well as a bust of him behind the desk in the office). You'd think Washington was buried here, but he's not.
Paramus as a location has little of beauty about it, but the cemetery itself is peaceful, serene, and...might as well admit it...even beautiful. There are some unique, picturesque statues and buildings located about the grounds (not many, but they're tastefully and artistically done). One statue (or metallic sculpture) is of a boy or young man playing a musical instrument; the other is of a young lady (or girl) with her arms extended upward in joy, birds flying about her...is her joy at the prospect of Heaven? Eternal life? Nirvana? Standing in the center of the cemetery like a beacon is a tall, thin building with a star, or something resembling a star, at the very top. It's been there since I can remember, and I'm not sure what it is or what its purpose is, but it does make a striking impression...always has.
I needed to find 2 grave locations here recently, and the people in the office were pleasant and helpful, providing me with a map and specific instructions about where those I sought were buried. I still had some trouble locating them (I had a general idea of where they were, but its been a few years since I was last here), but the cemetery workers were actually very helpful to me, going out of their way to render aid, without being asked. I knew one guy I worked with who some years ago complained to me that the grave of his parents, who are buried here, was always overgrown and unkempt. I must confess that it didn't please me that the grave of my paternal grandparents was under a half foot of water, but you have to be realistic about these things, I think. When conditions improve, I'm sure the proper maintenance will be done. It's a large cemetery, not new, and everyone here seems as conscientious as can reasonably be expected. Just my opinion, some may disagree, but I'm the one writing the review.
If I have a complaint, it's that the roads are really too narrow to comfortably navigate, but I don't know that that sort of complaint can be applied just to this cemetery. It seems intrinsic to any cemetery built many decades ago. There are some famous people buried here-- Luther Vandross, one of the Isley Brothers, and Thomas Eboli, one time boss of the Genovese Mafia Family who was shot down coming out of the Brooklyn apartment of his mistress in 1972 (obviously, they didn't bury him at "Richard Nixon Memorial Acres"). Also buried here is the family of Harry Delaroach Jr., a maladjusted, homicidal geek who fatally shot his father, mother, and 2 brothers in 1976 because his father was sending him back to military school (you wonder why he didn't consider just running away?).
Objectively speaking, it's a nice cemetery, scenic in a low-key sort of way, and conducive to quiet reflection, mourning, and remembering. read more