TLDR version: Kelly Smíšek, Founder of the Frosted Faces Foundation, is a textbook narcissist. Her organization does care for the dogs in their charge but are a long shot from being true animal advocates, but I digress. I highly encourage you to read on for the full scoop.
Situation which lead to my interactions with the Frosted Faces Foundation:
Ashley, the dog I was applying for, used to be a part of my four-legged family around 10+ years ago. I underwent some rough times in what was then my 20's and had to move. At that time, a past friend reached out and offered to take Ashley in temporarily until my situation improved. After 6 months of not finding accommodations that would accept Ashley, the friend took him in as her own and cut off all communications.
Fast forward 10+ years and it turns out this past friend became an animal hoarder at some point. Ashley was rescued by animal control around July of 2022 and then transferred to the Frosted Faces Foundation.
I was made aware of the situation by that past friend who reached out to my workplace (I've been working at the same location for years) to get a hold of me to tell me she was losing everything. I tried to communicate with her, but the drama that ensued had me blocking her number. From there, it was simply a matter of tracking Ashley to the Frosted Faces Foundation website.
Email interaction with Delia Haust, Placement Coordinator of the Frosted Faces Foundation:
Most of the above was included in my application to adopt Ashley. I received a response from Placement Coordinator, Delia Haust, who noted my story was "amazing", assured me that Ashley was in good hands, and ended with "Ashley has already raised the interest of other families and we plan to go with one of those for his permanent placement."
As someone who is also in the animal shelter industry, I knew this was an indirect bs response. One I would never give in all my years in the industry. I followed it up with an email correcting his approximate birthday to 10/2010. They did make this edit on the website, however they wrote his birthday as 9/2010 instead. Oh well.
It is important to note that I also asked that I be contacted if his potential adopters dropped out. No response followed.
Email interaction with Kelly Smíšek, Founder of the Frosted Faces Foundation:
I had kept the previous interaction in the back of my mind until realizing over a month had passed by since my initial interaction. I reached out again via email, noting that Ashley was still available for adoption.
I received a speedy response from Kelly, with
"Hi Jessica,
Some of your references were not in support of adding Ashley to your family, so we opted to not move forward. I am sorry if this news is disappointing and we appreciate your interest."
This was an absolute lie. None of my two references were contacted. I made this clear in my emailed response. This is where Kelly starts to change her story in her next response of
"We have several mutual professional references who we reached out to, as naturally, the references provided by an applicant will provide positive feedback. I understand the personal responsibility you must feel for Ashley. We are taking good care of him and he continues to have adoption interest and receives volunteer attention."
More sourced & confirmed lies. From there my response was a simple
"Thank you for the information. I will be including it on all public reviews."
Not long after, I received an actual phone call from Kelly Smíšek.
Phone call interaction with Kelly Smíšek:
She immediately addressed me as being angry. I was miffed, but narcissists cannot empathize, so I ignored her comment and mentioned the start to finish lies and story changes within her organization. I was nothing short of professional, clear, and direct, and instead I was told that my "attitude" was "off-putting"...I told her I'm a bold and direct person to which she later gave a humorous tone to mentioning, "Well, you say you're...BOLD, or whatever you call it." before she began a tangent of grasping at straws as to why it is not in Ashley's best interest to enter my home. (Will detail in the future as I ran out of review space), all of which I called out as ridiculous reasons. She mentioned the dogs that she and I have and said neither of us needs more dogs...excuse me? After telling her that no one had any business saying anyone needs or doesn't need more dogs, she back peddled and said it was a jest. You're not funny, Kelly. She even dangled the proverbial carrot, saying that things could have gone differently had our interaction been different. How fucking dare!
Fragile personalities can feel intimidated by direct and confident people. The only one with any "attitude" was Kelly. It was akin to communicating with a child. Her sing-song voice does not negate her actual attitude, lies, judgement, and preconceived notions this woman had about me.
Kelly, you lie like it's going out of style. Tisk tisk. read more