IF YOU WERE BULLIED or KNOW SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN BULLIED, PLEASE READ!
I was a freshman at this school in 1997. I was bullied by many students both male and mostly female. We were separated into academies, which required you to have the same classmates for math, english, and science. Imagine getting bullied three periods out of the school day and inbetween each period you have to pass by them.
My homework would get thrown away and they would draw inappropriate pictures on my assignments that had to be graded by my classroom peers. My papers would be ripped if I passed them forward. Sometimes, my name would be erased or scratched off of my papers. I was made fun of verbally and by laughter and by expressions on their faces. I had paper balls thrown at me.
I was constantly tripped on purpose when walking my assignments up to my teachers desk. One time in particular, a boy named James spat on me in the classroom. Mr. Burk did nothing to stop this bullying! I would shout at my peers to stop harassing me, but then Mr. Burk would turn around and yell back at me, instead of punishing the initiator. I believe that he did nothing because he did not want the popular kids to raise hell with him, but that's just my opinion.
Mr. Burk also let it be known to us that he is a proud Athiest. Now that I am much older and now that I am a parent, I think this is an absolutely inappropriate conversation to discuss with students in a classroom.
I was not a bad kid, and never looked for trouble as I never had bad intentions. I started getting followed home and one time a boy named Brandon took my keys from me and never gave them back. He said he'd give them back if I were to give him my money or to have sex with him. These students would wait for me after school. I would hide in the girls bathroom and they would just wait. One day, Brandon bit my shoulder so badly that the scar from his teeth were visible for a long time (I cannot remember how long they showed). Some days I was able to come home right away, and most days I would do whatever I could to avoid the students harassing me. This included, finding a safe place to dwell until I seen that everyone has left. I started carrying a pocket knife with me to school.
Eventually, I end up getting into a physical fight with some girls that surrounded me, right after being picked on in Mr. Burk's classroom. I was taunted by more than 10 girls who surrounded me trying to intimidate me. They would follow me to my next class, making it very uncomfortable by laughing and making obvious expressions and by shouting rude comments to me.
Something came over me and I snapped and I hit the main girl who was encouraging the others to taunt me. Two of the other girls jumped on me and I do not know how, but I was able to fight them all off. The main girl was hurt badly by me and I am not proud that it came to this. The "security guard" watched the whole awful event unfold. She was excited to see us fight. I seen her laughing out of the corner of my eye after the janitor pulled us apart. Me and the security guard made eye contact. In that moment she knew that I knew that she was no better than the students who were bullying me.
Coincidentally, my mother was at the school talking to the principal about the concerns she was having for me at school, while this fight was unfolding.
I was suspended, then was expelled. I had to go to the school board to talk about the incident and to plead my case. I was truthful and honest with them. Carol Love, who was the principal at the time asked me this question:
"So, do you think that it was peer pressure that caused you to get into this fight?"
I responded by saying, " How can it be peer-pressure that lead me to fight when all I have is my peers being pressured to fight me? I don't understand that at all! "
My mom, let out a sob, and I suppose my honest response felt credible to the school board, so therefore they reinstated my status so that I was no longer expelled.
I did not want to go back to that school because I had suffered so much already. I end up going to San Juan school district.
I know this is a long review, but bullying is real and it's important to know that we must be open, inviting and transparent with our children so that they are not going through this alone, especially if the staff is not acting responsibly to solve the issue.
I hope my story helps someone who may have experienced the same. Stay positive, stay strong and if you are being bullied, write a letter to the principal and be very specific about what situations you are going through.
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