I don't even know where to start. I am 33 years old and have been to many OBG's in my life but…read morenever in my life I had such low quality interaction. I am pregnant for the first time, and if this wasn't terrifying enough, I have had severe bleeding and cramps for over a week prior to my appointment, so I went there with lots of questions, and hoping to get some clarification on what was going on.
The office staff was very courteous, that I cannot complain. Unfortunately however, one of the girls (the one who took me to get the urine test) forgot to tell my boyfriend (i told her I would like him to join me when he arrived (he was on his way) and she guaranteed me she would let him know where I was. He got there, looked for me, and nobody took him to me. Shame on them.
Onto the "doctor". I don't even think I can call that person a doctor. She introduced herself and gathered my records and took a 3-second look and started to ask me questions that she clearly hadn't read a thing about me. "You've had 3 miscarriages?" No, Ive never been pregnant, it's written there. "Oh, thats your second pregnancy?" No, ma'am, Ive never been pregnant, its right there on the paper you are holding. She was aloof and I don't even think she knew my name at that point. She seemed in a hurry.
I proceeded to explain about my severe pain and bleeding and all aha said was "There really not a way to tell you whats that". Well, maybe thats why we come to a Doctor, to get answers! She then proceeds to get my IV ultrasound. Good Lord. My boyfriend is a Radiologist, so watching her doing my ultrasound was scary. She didn't know how to use the machine! She didn't know how to freeze the image, she didn't know how to print, she didn't know how to MEASURE IT! She actually measured my yolk vertically so there was no way to see the size of the fetal pole. She was so clumsy I actually has to hold the ultrasound pole inside of me (I SWEAR TO GOD, I'M NOT JOKING) while she franticly tried to find the button where to print the horrible image she chose to look at. I swear any 1st year med-student would have done a better job.
She printed the thing, looked at the blood test I brought with me and said it was inconclusive. She didn't exam my breast, she didn't ask about anything. She said she needed another blood test and if the results are not good, I should decide on how to proceed with the miscarriage and then "move on with my life". She then proceeded to tell me not to give up yet and left the room.
That was it. My very first pregnancy, one million questions, hundreds of weird symptoms, a doctor unable to operate an US machine and a 10 minute appointment. I actually thought she would meet me at her office so I could ask her more questions but no, that was it. I left with more questions than answers, and when I showed the picture to my boyfriend (who's been reading those for over 15 years now) he said "Who took this? And what the heck is she measuring here?". He wanted to go back there but I was already too disturbed to bother.
Fast forward one day and I call the office to let her know about my second blood work. Receptionist says Doctor will call me back with instructions. About two hours later someone calls, but thats not the doctor. Its her assistant. The call lasted 0:58seconds. She told me "blood results were inconclusive and not so good, doctor wants a new ultrasound and if theres no heart beat, you need to chose the miscarriage/abortion option". Like that, cold as an ice cube. I was in shock for a bit and was like "but does she want another blood test?, do I just wait here for a week, Im in pain, and bleeding!".. and he assistant said, "no, just another ultrasound. No heart beat, make sure you chose your miscarriage options."
And that was it. Heartless, inconsiderate, cold and unprofessional treatment from both, this doctor and her assistant. I was hoping the doctor would call me and explain me something, give me some word of encouragement, provide me with some explanation. But apparently her assistant does that for her, and very poorly.
I broke down in tears not only because of the not so encouraging news, but because of the WAY those two ladies dealt with such delicate situation. I bet they don't have children or never had a miscarriage. This is not a way of dealing with a first-time pregnant woman who's scared to death. "Choosing a miscariage/abortion way" is not something you tell people like you are telling them they have a cold. THIS IS SUPPOSE TO BE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING OF MY LIFE, and all they did was treat me like one more patient to be billed.
This was traumatizing and I can't wait to actually deal with a HUMAN doctor, someone that will actually seat down and talk to me, someone that will pick up the phone and speak to me and give me some compassion. Those two women were not human. Those are not Doctors. It takes more than an MD degree to make someone a good doctor, and she is not one of them.