Dear Ema V.
I am so sorry that that was your experience. I am genuinely sad to think that this was what you took away from our brief encounter. I do have to be more discerning with our enrollment this year (due to Covid) than I have ever had to during any other year. We must only accept students right now who are able to independently toilet themselves, can follow simple directions, and are able to listen and follow lessons during a presentation. We have very strict guidelines right now that we must follow in order to stay in compliance with the CDC and OSPI standards.
I apologize if I came off as rude or not culturally sensitive. I do my best to be as anti-bias and culturally sensitive as possible. I love children from all ethnicities and I fully embrace diversity. As you can imagine, I am trying my best to run a busy school, educating students, teachers, and parents alike while also trying to operate safely during a pandemic. Sometimes my no-nonsense approach is because I have to do things quickly and sensibly. When I see that a child is not quite ready for an independent experience, it seems best to be up front and honest about needing to take some time to get the child ready for that experience. I can fully appreciate that of course I wouldn't be able to uncover the intricacies of your son's gifts in such a short time, however in order for my teachers to be able to effectively teach all the children in their class, it is up to me to make sure that we don't accept a student who is not ready for the structure and independence needed within a normalized Montessori classroom. It would be very disruptive to all the other students who are also striving for independence.
Rest assured that we do provide an amazing educational experience, and that your 20 minute experience is not reflective of the true education provided. I am highly trained in Montessori and traditional educational pedagogy, and I am able to spot a child who needs more time developing his executive function and self-regulation skills. I suggested that your family read a bit on Montessori simply because I witnessed a lot of extrinsic rewarding of your son for very small actions (clapping for him if he poured water). This was why I thought it might be a good idea to understand the philosophy behind why we don't provide so much extrinsic rewards for our small learners, as it actually inhibits learning in the long run. I understand that you have done a fair amount of research regarding Montessori education, but the philosophy itself was lacking which was why I suggested a bit more reading in this area.
However, I understand how this could have made you and your wife feel like I was rejecting your son.
Truly though I didn't reject him for our school and of course we do not expect children to be perfect at all, however your son did not show much executive function during our short time together, and I merely thought that if he had more time with more intentional independence training, that he would then be more of a fit for an authentic Montessori classroom.
As for the comment you quoted out of context, "Teachers don't have time for students", what I actually said was that teachers cannot take each child to the bathroom, they don't have time to do that". This is why we expect students to be potty-trained before starting school. Teachers spend ALL of their time TEACHING the students. Potty training must happen at home. read more