My son attended the PJCC Keef Adventures camp last week. This camp is for kids entering 6-8 grade. My son just turned 11 so he is in the younger age group. The reason I signed up for this expensive camp is because my son wanted to spend some time with his best friend from their old school. However since the Day 1, my son was bullied by the older kids at the camp, and tramatized. Outragerously, there was no correction done by the camp teachers, and no investigation result of our claims.
My son brought his own made Lego MineCraft blocks to the camp the first day and all he wanted was to play with his best friend of their own Lego games. The older kids came to their table, swept the Lego blocks on the floor, hid in their pockets, or stepped on it. My son had to lift up one kid's foot to get his Lego out or reach to their pockets to get his Lego back. And when he did that, they called him a "pocket picker".
There has been ongoing physical and verbal abuse by the older kids to my son such as calling him "shorty, stupid, annoying and even cringe ol' giggles" . My son was not good at baseball and the older kids called out to him: "Hi, look, someone teach his kid how to hold the bat." One big kid push him off the mat at the Rock Climbing when he just wanted to sit down and rest. One big kid violently grabbed my son's neck in the bus when he made an unharmful comment.
My son is diagnoised high function autism. He plays really well with his best friend alone but gets overwhelmed if he was constantly bothered and irriated. When I heard the complaint of bully at pickup on Day 1, and confirmed with my son's best friend, I reported this to the camp teacher. The camp teacher impliciately admitted by saying: "There were conflicts and we will keep close eyes on the bigger kids." Every time when I asked, they were just saying: "Sure we will keep eyes on it." But my son came home telling me the different types of bullies on Tuesday and Wednesday.
Thursday morning, after I dropped my son off at the camp, he called me and asked me if I had a chance to talk to the bigger kids. I did not know that his anxiety level has built up to an extremly high level at that time. On the way to Half Moon Bay for their Kayak activity, my son had a panic attack. He started to talk about the bullies will push him off the boat, or swing the golf stick on his head on Friday. He was annoyed by some others kids for unrelated issue and then just snapped. He used some very dangerous launages and completely lost control of his emtional regualtion. The camp teacher deemed his behaviro unsafe and sent him back to the camp office.
I have been working very hard with my son's therapy to teach him how to safely and approporiately channel his emotion and he has been making such great improvments. He would not lost it on Thursday if there wasn't this ongoing bully at him. If the camp teacher put an affirmative stop on the bully with proper consequences to the older kids, nothing of these would happen.
Last but defintely not least, besides the other bullies my son experienced, one thing in particular should be addressed. My son was playing outside at an infrastructure, and he overheard an old kid saying to his friends: "I don't like white people. White people are so weird..." My son was not sophisticated to understand the racial issues but he responded by saying: "Hi guys, don't say that, I am half White and half Chinese." Then the old kid said: "You Chinese? Go back to the field, farmer." My son reported that to the camper teacher but the kid lied about what he said and changed the narrative to "You Chinese? Can you say hello in Chinese?" My son came home and asked me if that comment is racist. It broke my heart when I heard that. There were other kids present when this happened and I asked the camp to investigate but I did not hear anything back.
I am holding my tears when I wrote this and wanted to share this experience with everyone. This is the worst experience we had so far for all the camps we've been to. read more