I'm a huge advocate of seeking professional counseling during rough times; I looked up Bob Harverstick, a psychologist, after being dissatisfied with the LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) my ex and I had seen during separation & divorce counseling. I'm sure there are great LCSWs, but their qualifications vary, and if I'm going to bring up my fazzah and muzzah, I'd rather do it with a psychologist.
Bob is, of course, a good listener. You'll not only get a lot out of talking through your thoughts and feelings aloud (things feel very different that way than when "said" in your head), but you'll get his voice of experience. I didn't find Bob heavy-handed; I'd do most of the talking, but his feedback as I went was valuable. Therapy isn't magic, but your internal monologue hasn't heard it all (and worse) 1,000 times: he has. I really believe you're better off figuring out whatever it is with an outside, neutral professional's perspective in the mix.
Last I spoke with Bob (in process of finding a therapist for a friend), he clued me in to why I couldn't find any therapists who took United (United Behavioral Health): apparently, of all payers, they pay least. I'm back to United in my current job, but if I had cause, I'd still call Bob first and see if I could make a larger out-of-pocket payment to resume with him. He'd offered a sliding scale for those who have to pay the whole thing out-of-pocket, so I know he can be worked with. I didn't take him up on it, but he also does group sessions.
I have to think it's not a bad thing to have a therapist on your team, much as you have an attorney, a priest, a urologist, and a financial planner: things are going to happen. If Bob's not for you, I'm sure he'll refer you to someone who is. read more