John was great at helping me and my (now) ex navigate thru our divorce. For over a year during the mediation John was a rock going between us and hashing out the details. He made sure we both could agree on the points while staying independent of his opinion. I do highly recommend if U are going thru this difficult situation . Thank U John read more

John was excellent, neutral and provided solid advice to both parties and help resolve topics with ease. Personable yet professional. Highly recommended. Easy to communicate with regarding initating the process and the process itself. Both parties left with solid peace of mind that their personal yet each others best interests were represented and treated fairly and with kindbess and respect. read more

I would recommend Johns services to anyone in need of divorce. This was the most difficult time in my life and he made the process as simple and easy to understand as possible. He was patient with me as I went through the process of taking my life back. I'm mostly grateful for what he calls "shuffle diplomacy". I was never forced into a situation where I felt unsafe. The entire process was done over phone and email. He answered all my questions in a timely manner and when he recognized stall tactics he addressed them appropriately. All his billing and pricing was up front and fair. Thank you John! Kimberly read more

This review is way over do, I want to express my satisfaction with John Butler mediator in my divorce, he is fair, very competent and the right price, I found John Butler and he went right to work on my divorce he knew exactly how to go about it and made this transition smooth and peaceful I was very happy on how much knowledge he has, and what I though it was going to be hard to convince the judge, he made it possible, he drew the papers for the court and it was all approved, he worked with my ex husband I didn't have to deal with anything, he did what he knows how to do very well. I highly recommend John Butler don't look anywhere else, he is the guy, you will be happy you did. Thank you John! Say hello to your lovely wife. Thank you so much you are a life saver. You did what they told me was impossible. Your ability surpassed my expectations. And the smoothness surprised me. You are very competent lawyer God bless. Have a beautiful life you deserve it. read more

Very easy to work with. Thanks to John for being very patient with us. He knows the processes very well and has great experience. One can completely rely on him. read more

John is an absolute gem of a mediator. He is extremely competent, experienced, and well versed in every aspect of the law - he has seen it all many times. But he brings so much more to the experience: a deep knowledge of emotions and communication in splitting couples, an innate intuition to think and act a few steps ahead at all times, a balanced approach when handling big energy and high conflict, the ability to tell it like it is with heart, and mostly reverence for the dignity and needs of each person during the most difficult of circumstances. We felt cared for and guided well throughout the process. read more

Value is difficult to define in the context of divorce proceedings, but I felt that John had answers to almost all my questions and provided sound advice for what I felt was a reasonable price. John was able to successfully mediate and persuade each party when to push back and when to concede, without adding a lot of time and cost. You can expect a very bare bones process in terms of engaging John - phone calls, emails and payment via Zelle, but no other paperwork. I was skeptical at first but it all worked out. read more

John is knowledgeable, direct, fair and a great communicator. He always replied to emails promptly and made the whole process as simple and efficient as it could be. I'm thankful for his help and would definitely recommend his services. read more

Greetings, Divorce is never easy. My ex and I used John Butler to mediate our divorce in 2018. John crafted a very detailed and fair marital settlement agreement (MSA) for us. John is particularly skilled at negotiation, and his personable nature lends itself well to resolving disagreements in a peaceful way. Highly recommended. read more

John helped navigate through an extremely challenging and emotional time. He's direct, professional, prompt, and compassionate. I appreciated that he had been an attorney and has knowledge of the law. Also, mediations can be more affordable compared to both parties hiring an attorney. Although our case was unusual, John helped every step of the way and I'm appreciative for his assistance during a horrible time. read more

When it came time to end a very long relationship, I needed to discuss some complicated (and painful) issues. I wanted to work out something that was fair and minimized the pain of separation. What I liked about working with John is that he is equally skilled in emotional, financial, and legal matters. As a former attorney, he knows the law; as a former counselor, he can work with people and is remarkably attuned to what both parties need. He was able to help me work out the details diplomatically, so we came to a fair settlement that let us move on with minimal contention. John is trustworthy and reasonable, professional, and empathic. We did everything online and it worked fine. read more

John was kind, knowledgeable, understanding and helpful. He saved us a substantial amount of money and countless hours of frustration going through the courts or a legal battle. I would highly recommend. read more

Working with John has been great. He is extremely knowledgeable... anything I asked or even had concerns about I felt he gave a solid response and always had answers to my questions and it definitely made me feel at ease. He makes the process very smooth especially during an emotional and difficult time. Most importantly, I felt he was fair to both parties. We have worked with John more than once and John made it very simple and was also patient as we worked through complications. I would recommend him to anyone looking into doing mediation. read more

In 2022, I hired John Butler of Virtual Divorce Mediation to help me with the legal process. I found John to be knowledgeable, practical and reasonable. He deftly guided me through some troublesome aspects of the process with empathy and wisdom. His pricing was very reasonable especially given the skill he exhibited throughout the process. I recommend John's services without reservation! Douglas L. Kennedy, Tracy, CA read more

I was quite happy when I found John's website and felt that he was the answer to my needs for divorce mediation of a 25-year marriage - until my ex decided that she needed to be represented by a lawyer. To my relief, John said he would provide necessary services for my needs and would work with the ex's attorney. Through a very long and drawn-out process, agreements were made, and the divorce was approved. John was always there for me, and I was able to determine during our conversations how honest an individual he is. I was always able to make contact with him and always received valuable information and simple to follow instructions to navigate through the process. I highly recommend John and appreciate what he accomplished for me. read more

I had a business issue that could only be resolved by way of mediation. The parties involved could not reach terms on a tough issue. I was looking for a fair and level headed mediator that not only was on top of the mediation process but also was good at working fairly with all parties. John, our Mediator, was not only professional but also went out of his way to take as much stress out of this process as possible. I highly recommend the services of Virtual Divorce Mediation if you want to avoid the court process and work on realistic problem-solving. read more

I chose John to facilitate my divorce. Having never been through this before and not knowing what to expect, our initial meeting was a relief. He explained the process, went through everything with us and kept things balanced and calm. The paperwork was completed in a timely manner, but unfortunately we learned after court approval that one document wasn't correct. This was absolutely through no fault of John's and he worked with me to resolve it quickly. Thank you John! read more

I found John to be very knowledgeable and insightful during what was one of the most difficult transitions of my life: my divorce. Many conversations were had via email or phone that helped keep both my husband and I moving forward in as peaceful a way as possible and helped us avoid seeking attorneys which would have cost us much more money in the long run. Thank you John for your professionalism and your compassion. read more

I am so grateful that John was willing to help me with what was the most stressful time in my life thus far. He really went the extra mile to make sure mediation was done efficiently, which is exactly what we needed. John is so knowledgeable and helped me to feel confident in how things would be during mediation, in court, the process of dealing with the court system, and then some. He settled so many of my worries going into this uncharted territory and was so helpful in answering all of my questions during our initial interview. John's pricing also fits well into our budget, and we were able to get everything agreed upon in our two-hour meeting. I'm thankful we found John and would absolutely come back to him if we ever needed to. read more

As an attorney myself, I was aware of the significant advantages of mediating my divorce rather than proceeding through the courts. Even with that awareness, John far exceeded my expectations regarding the entire process, making an otherwise extremely hostile situation as pain-free and smooth as possible. John was professional, extremely capable in regard to the complex legal and emotional issues at play, fair and worked extremely hard to keep the process moving forward in a timely manner despite several roadblocks along the way. His pricing was extremely reasonable and he was extremely transparent from beginning to end regarding the entire process which resulted in no surprises along the way. I appreciate John's efforts in dealing with a difficult situation at times and would definitely refer his services to clients and friends alike. read more

I came to John angry and wanting advice on how to protect myself, even if at my wife's expense. He is excellent at seeing what's really going on, and helped me see a path towards long term good. John is skilled at guiding a couple to a settlement that is fair and which they will later be glad they chose. His focus is on a good outcome. As a divorcing couple we were under tremendous stress -- we were somewhere between anger and pain -- we still cared yet we were defensive and wanted to make sure we're not taken advantage of -- we didn't know the law and we needed an expert, yet someone who is ethical and even handed to make sure we both feel treated justly. John brings all of this. John was previously a litigator, so he knows what he's doing, but he also brings compassion for the very difficult process that a divorcing couple is going through. I highly recommend him. read more

John is very fair and upfront. He outlines the process very clearly for you and answers any questions you have until you're clear on each topic, before moving on to the next. I'm very happy and satisfied with the process thus far. read more

During a transitional time period, John provided neutral ground between 2 parties. Prior to the mediation session, John made sure both parties were heard. During the mediation session, John worked with professionalism and integrity in seeing the bigger picture. Overall, I'm very thankful for his services. read more

John was great to work with. He was fair and helped us keep this difficult process rolling to completion. No need to pay for expensive lawyers if you can work out your differences together and come to a mutual agreement. I would highly recommend John to anyone looking for mediation. read more

John was great and resolving disagreements and made sure me and my were treated fairly. He made sure both of us had ample time to express our concerns and what each of us wanted. He was professional at every level and I would recommend him to anyone who is trying to keep their separation or divorces out of the hands of money hungry attorneys who will turn you and your ex against each other. read more

I came to John after talking with many other mediators. None of them seemed as compassionate, respectful and experienced as John. Divorce can be a painful process, but he places great emphasis on fairness and protecting the safety of each person. Really grateful for all his help to see this through. Thank you! read more

John Butler handled our divorce mediation which began right at the beginning of the COVID shut down. John assured all steps were taken expeditiously and followed through with the courts which were at times, limited staffed. I appreciated his unbiased approach and the settlement went very quickly under very unusual COVID circumstances. Highly recommend when folks can maturely settle a divorce and avoid the high costs of securing divorce attorney(s). read more

John Butler held an excellence standard for compassion with equanimity for both my ex-husband and I during our mediation. He and his team went above and beyond to customize solutions for our unique situation. There were times when I thought it would be impossible to resolve our differences and that we would end up in a messy, lengthy trail but John brought the kind of calm and expertise that helped us navigate those moments and get to settling the important matters at hand in our divorce. Not only were he and his team equal advocates for us both but also, appropriately so, for our daughter. With focused kindness, John and his team helped us to remember the bigger picture of our priorities and come to workable agreements for everyone involved. I would recommend him and his team for any divorce mediation without a doubt. They have the experience in divorce law to be informative when needed without giving legal advise and the ethics in their mediation practice to hold both parties accountable to their responsibilities without bias- an extremely hard line to walk. When my ex-husband and I came to John, we were barely on speaking terms. Now, we have an active co-parenting relationship that produces a supportive and nurturing environment to the healthy growth and well being of our child. Our daughter is so much more happy and stable now because of it too which is what it's all about. John was a huge part of making this shift that I would never in a million years would have thought possible, possible. read more