I had been without a period in 9-10 months at the time of seeing Dr. Spinelli. I told her the…read moretesting I had done with an endocrinologist, what she thought may be going on, my concerns about fertility (I am 24 and soon to be married), if she could refer me to a fertility specialist, etc.. she asked me if I could be pregnant, which of course I would've had the baby after missing all my periods over that span of time, my cycle history, birth control history..then more or less shrugged her shoulders, said "sometimes this just happens and we don't know why" but that she could prescribe me birth control or we could wait it out, also since I'm not trying to get pregnant "right now," a fertility specialist will ask me "why are you here?" I explained I would want to be proactive about fertility, not wait until I'm actively trying to address a clear issue. I questioned that birth control does not give you natural cycles which she agreed with... so how would that solve my issue of not naturally having a period? No testing was suggested, no hypothesis of her own as to what could be happening, what I should do, nothing helpful or even remotely empathetic. I asked for a blood test to be done, which she complied with, which I received no call back for almost 2 weeks on the results. Then after I called again, she told me everything seemed normal. I asked her what should the next step be, the fertility specialist? She asked me a few follow up questions like "you said you're married right? Oh not yet -right, but you're trying to conceive? Not right now, oh okay..." then said it was up to me, or yet again, try birth control. Maybe she had someone else's chart in front of her or simply wasn't paying attention when I told her my story.
I know it may seem foolish of me to go back after all this, but being new to the area, I didn't have time to start all over again with telling my story, waiting for an open appointment a month away, etc. But then I had felt a lump in my breast. Anxious, I went to her and she got me in promptly that same day. First, she said she didn't feel anything until I physically put her finger on the lump, then asked me if I had cut myself shaving my underarm because that can cause my lymph node to swell. She said she wasn't alarmed, keep an eye on it and come back if it doesn't go away. I waited a couple more weeks, developed some concerning discoloration near the lump that felt "off" texturally. I went back to her, she said the discoloration was probably dry skin and gave me a script for a breast ultrasound that didn't have all the requested information the radiology facility asked me for. She told me to let them know my age so they don't give me a mammogram (in my head, I'm thinking why wouldn't I want one if it'll tell me the overall health of my breasts) so I asked her "why would someone my age not want one?" She looked at me blankly and said "I don't know, excess radiation?" Yes, I later found out you usually start mammograms around age 40, but a true professional would have explained that politely since it was evident I didn't know. I grabbed the script and left.
Shameful bedside manner. I felt she expressed no sense of compassion. I did not feel heard or taken seriously. Hopefully, my experience is not the norm but being that it was not just one time... I am doubtful.