I am a past client of Dr. Sloan's and would like to offer up some positive input regarding my…read moreexperience.
I was involved in a 17-year marriage that had been in trouble for many, many years by the time I and my former spouse began counseling with Dr. Sloan. We had all sorts of issues and - long story short - the marriage was simply not working out on almost every level. Despite Dr. Sloan's dedicated efforts to assist us in attempting to work to some resolution, it became apparent that therapy was not going to keep the marriage together.
At this point, I engaged Dr. Sloan on an individual level, as I had realized that I needed to leave the marriage for the ultimate good of all involved - however was having an extremely difficult time moving ahead with what would be a dramatic, painful, uprooting, and life-changing decision. During four months of intense one-on-one sessions with Dr. Sloan, I was able to come to some very cathartic conclusions regarding both HOW I had ended up where I was in my life at that time, and perhaps more importantly WHY I was completely paralyzed and unable to act upon several excruciatingly difficult but necessary decisions I needed to make in order to move my life in the direction it needed to go...and for me to become the person I so desperately wanted and needed to be.
I would like to note that I was pretty much in anxiety attack mode at this particular point in time, due to the slow but steady build-up of unhappiness and dissatisfaction in my life over many years, and the sense that I was completely trapped and could not possibly muster the wherewithal to change my situation. I'm a very smart and confident man at my core, but felt helpless - maybe "hapless" is a more accurate word - when faced with decisions that would forever change everything I had come to know in my adult life to that point. There was no lower time in my life, and I was terrified...yet silently determined to get myself to the right outcome - whatever that might be. Dr. Sloan patiently, skillfully, and compassionately helped me begin to understand some of the key reasons why I felt marooned in my existence at that time, and while not necessarily steering me in any specific direction, she somehow managed to allow me to tap into my own potential to shape my future from that point forward. Most of all, Dr. Sloan gave me the wherewithal to break through what had pretty much become a crippling forcefield of inaction that had stalled me in a no-man's land for probably 10 years or more. Once I was able to finally harness the ability to do what I needed to do for myself, the flood gates opened and since then, life has taken several very dramatic turns - all for the best.
Today, five years later, I am remarried and in an extremely happy, healthy, comfortable relationship - and have become the father I have always wanted to be to my 8-year-old son. I have a delightful wife and son, a delightful life, and I am (hate to use this word but I will anyway) authentically happy. Without Dr. Sloan's help, I very much doubt that I would have been able to get to where I am today.
Let me conclude by saying that I was right up there at the top of the list of people who come into therapy relationships of this type with a healthy amount of skepticism, to say the least. I have never been a believer in blaming one's problems on one's childhood, or thinking that somehow all the answers to our adult problems can be found in childhood experiences. While I still feel that way in many respects to this day, I would encourage anyone going through serious issues in their lives to simply be open to any and all explorations that might provide some insights into exactly who you are and why you are. There is some incredible power in that discovery, and while the process was not always clear to me - I am sitting here today counting my blessings daily because I allowed myself to be open to a process of true self-discovery. It is never, ever too late to reclaim your life...and while I will be the first one to give myself the credit for changing my life for the better, I owe Dr. Sloan a tremendous debt of gratitude for finally turning the light on in what was a pitch-black room for me for so long.