I came for a consult, left with tears in my eyes and no surgery scheduled.
I was referred to Green Lake Oral and Facial Surgery by my dentist for wisdom teeth removal. The pain bad enough that without pain reliever I am struggling to chew. Yawning is very painful. I share this only to put in perspective how uncomfortable I had to be to leave without scheduling the surgery.
One seemingly small thing that stood out to me during the appointment, is that only the front desk staff ever introduced themselves to me. I did not know the doctor's during my appointment.
The appointment started with an assistant taking me right to imaging and then back into an exam room. She seemed nice. Within 30 seconds of sitting down she began what you could tell was a very well-rehearsed script about the surgical process and risks of the surgery. It was a lot to take in, but I appreciate that this was the right thing to do. One risk was particularly jarring, and I asked about the likelihood it happening, and the assistant kept rotating the image saying, "It probably won't happen, but it could." It shook me up and made me nervous, but no red flags at this point. I owned that I was nervous about the number of risks and asked about the frequency of incidents. She told me they do this all the time then hands me a laminated "disclosure form" and leaves the room to get the doctor.
This form has even more associated risks (printed front and back). I appreciate that these are being shared, but the first ten minutes of my appointment is all worse case scenarios. No one has asked how I am feeling, discussed average or best-case , or even told me their name. At this point I wish the experience was better, but not concerned. Then I overhear how the assistant is checking in with the doctor about me. She essentially tells him I am being irrationally afraid and he is clearly annoyed and discloses he doesn't care if I get the surgery or not.
I am a woman of color, and it is very common experience for concerns to be treated as irrational. And overhearing the conversation I can feel myself shut down. They never reviewed my care plan or the reason for visit. I am a director at healthcare organization and am keenly aware of what just happened. I no longer am a human, I am a barrier to payment. When they both enter the room and for a moment I have hope, because he is also a person of color. It quickly becomes clear does not care at all about me.
The doctor says, "I want to have a look." Within 20 seconds he tilts the chair pack, puts his hand on my forehead, and sticks fingers in my mouth. Then he stands ups and says, "Alright we can the one out, or all them." I am still trying to find my words. I am a little in shock.. He then says, "You seem real stressed. Is it the nerve thing?" And then mentions how I do not need to get care with them. He's been in the room less than 5 minutes. I finally say the words "can I go to the restroom." I am shaking. And to many reading this review, that does not make sense. I am in pain and I want to feel better. But my gut tells me this office does not care about me. So now I am torn between addressing my pain, or possibly having my surgical care be as thoughtless as the office visit. I called my partner from the bathroom to get their opinion. While on the phone I ask them to hold on, because I can hear the Assistant discussing with the Financial Coordinator laughing and their plan to bill me.
I am fighting back tears, walk back to the exam room, and thanked the assistant for their time. She runs after me and asks me to wait in the lobby. This was part of the plan I heard. The financial Coordinator, sticks her head out and says "Oh no worries you can go I am going to bill your insurance." I asked her for an itemized bill, and she was responds "But you are not getting the surgery." Still fighting tears I ask again. She smirks, rolls her eyes and then says "Sure." My partner calls and I pick up the phone, the financial coordinator comes back and before I can even ask my partner to hold on, shoves the list of charges in my face and walks off. When I said that much to my partner she came back out of the door and confronts me. "If you want to talk we can talk?" As I ask my partner to hold she continues to passive aggressively dismiss everything I say, or talk over me.
I was never a patient or human to this office, I was a possible procedure for which they could bill. For many folks, particularly those who are not BIPOC, this will not make sense. But for those that have had to depend on contextual or environmental clues to see if their bodies would be well taken care of, it makes a lot of sense.
I am sure this is a great office if you are a member of dominant culture or have had nothing but positive healthcare experiences. If that is not you, I want to encourage you to listen to your gut no matter how embarrassing it may be and no matter how nervous it makes you. read more