I'm writing a new review in light of Jane Doe's post. I wanted to give at least 2 stars because the community of now mostly former members are wonderful people. My original review two years ago was a glowing five star review because of the community Mikyo has built. As two years became three, I saw that the community is one thing, but the leadership is another thing entirely.
These allegations have followed Mikyo for years, and though I cannot substantiate them personally, I respect the women and men coming out who can and do, and I know them in my heart to resonate with what I've seen.
I will only speak to what I know.
My two daughters and I trained extensively over the last three years. Two months ago I pulled them because the community has almost no women left, and they felt vulnerable. This week I pulled myself.
I found out after I pulled my girls that he rolled often with my 14 year old daughter. I roll 3-5x a week for three years and he has never rolled with me. Not once.
He once made a comment about my daughter maturing that made my skin crawl. He is overly friendly with most of the women in the gym and in addition to the gym members, some of the men's wives and girlfriends have complained about it and even left the gym.
I have seen Mikyo speak badly about my daughters, about my friend's daughters, and about his own daughter.
I have seen him speak badly about his customers, his team, his competitors, his staff, and his coaches.
I have personally watched him take advantage of his staff and push the boundaries of what's appropriate. And the pattern is that he hires a student until they wise up and leave the gym entirely.
The sad part is Mikyo isn't interested in changing. He thinks Jiu Jitsu lineage is important and good technique is handed down from great man to great man. Marin MMA is his temple to himself, and for enough new white belts, it can be that... for a while. But this is an old way of thinking about martial arts and the modern practice has passed him by. Look closely, and you see that he hasn't earned the respect to have that lineage matter anymore. Most of his black belts either don't respect him or leave. Most of the competitive upper belts don't train with him. He never shows up at competitions to support his competitors unless there's a promoter involved. Most of the time while his students are rolling he's looking at his phone. My development as a practitioner skyrocketed under his other coaches who invested in me. Those coaches have all already left or left en masse this week.
He will be the first to tell you he comes from a very long line of abusive trainers. He still keeps photos of Ralph Gracie on the wall, and Ralph just left prison for assaulting another coach at a tournament. I used to say that when Mikyo speaks you can see the devil and the angel at war on his shoulders. I now think the devil has had his better angels in a choke hold for too long.
And I appreciate this is a human being and we're all flawed. It would be so much easier to love Marin MMA if it were run like a business and not a temple to Mikyo Riggs and Ralph Gracie. Instead he charges his own coaches for memberships and has them work off memberships or doesn't pay them at all. Loyalty is the currency and he doesn't understand it's earned individually, not implicit by Jiu Jitsu lineage.
When I pulled my daughters I told him he should invest in a women's coach or a women's open mat. He proceeded to tell me how hard it is to "come down to teach at your level already" and he couldn't find anyone because there weren't enough women to support it. Years ago I suggested they bring in a yoga instructor or a Judoka. No interest unless someone on "the team" already wants to volunteer. His farm system is depleted and he refuses to bring in any free agents. And so like so many teams, he started losing.
This week he lost most of his adult students and his staff. His business and livelihood will truly suffer. He's already closed the gym. I feel for him - I even still have respect for the community he created and his Jiu Jitsu, but I don't trust him to lead it anymore.
I hope none of the allegations are true. I know people permanently changed by his behavior and I fear the worst.
I hope he learns to respect people and himself more. I hope he invests in himself and his business and gets help to do so. But given the way he has handled this week, with ChatGPT generated damage control emails and texts, I think he's a long way from seeing where he's failing.
I have so many good memories from this gym. I love many of my training brothers and sisters because they put their hearts into their training. Jiu Jitsu is a rare thing because it requires a safe place for one to be vulnerable and fully present as part of the compact. I highly recommend everyone practice Jiu Jitsu. I can no longer recommend Marin MMA, and it breaks my heart. read more