My experience with Danellia as my doula was important, powerful, and perfect.
I had had two previous births without a doula, my first was at home (my husband and sister were present and supportive), and my second was a transfer to the hospital after a very long and exhausting labor.
For my third, I knew I needed more than just the support of my husband. He was amazing support and such a strong and available presence but I realized that with the first two births, he also needed support-- some relief when he was tired or needed to meet his own needs, someone who could step in and share the load and keep his head above water: a doula. I knew a doula to be able to openly share my fears and internal processes about giving birth throughout my pregnancy.
Danellia immediately made me feel like I could talk to her about anything without reflecting back any judgment. She was completely attuned to me from the very beginning of our doula-client relationship. She was present at my Blessingway and I remember an instance in which I was experiencing a Braxton Hicks contraction. I didn't realize I was tending up my body and clenching my jaw until I looked up at her in silence and she gently but firmly said "Relax your jaw. Drop your shoulders." I was in awe about how she tuned in to my energy and began coaching me. It was exactly what I needed to hear. Throughout my pregnancy, I was able to text her with any questions or questions and receive a prompt and thoughtful response. And bonus-- my husband, who initially was very hesitant and reluctant to a doula's presence-- loved her. He made him feel that same sense of safety and attunement.
The day of my son's birth, Danellia was at my house for my midwife appointment. My husband couldn't be there but it felt so good to have her there and be able to process my appointments with her. Having her as my doula allowed me to enter this experience with faith in my body and with openness about the outcome. The only thing I told her I knew I wanted were two trenzas (braids). Within an hour after she and my midwife left, I texted them that I think it was happening fast. Shortly after, Danellia was back at my house before my midwife was there, reminding me to change positions, keep hydrated, and overall just being a safe and protective presence. She relieved my husband to take a break when I was laboring on the toilet, and got to work on my trenzas! Having her loving touch, by touching my hair, providing counter pressure on my sacrum, massaging my arms, shoulders, and legs was so incredible. I felt like she embodied all of my abuelitas holding the space for me, my body, and my baby to do our thing.
Once I got into the birthing pool, Danellia was with me, verbally reminding me of my strength and encouraging me when I was getting close and feeling like I wouldn't be able to take much longer. Before I knew it, I was birthing my baby in the water. Danellia physically stepped back but was still very much next to me.
After the birth, Danellia and my friend Karissa (also a doula, my birth photographer, and essential oil medicine woman) stayed and took care of getting the space back in order so that me, my baby, and my partner could have our holy space. I really appreciated that. They also went to get food for us which was really needed-- I was hungry after all that hard work.
Even after the birth, Danellia has been an amazing presence in my postpartum experience. I'm so happy to know her, have been able to witness her in all her doula power and glory, and cannot recommend her enough for anyone looking for a doula who is fully present, intuitive, and a full on chingona whose absolute passion is to remind women of their power and abilities to have the birth they want. I don't plan on having another baby, but if I did, it would be a no brainer to have Danellia as my doula again. She has a gift, she is a gift. read more