When I first found out I was pregnant, I wasn't completely sure of anything. I didn't know where I wanted to give birth, how I wanted to give birth, when I wanted family here, etc. What I was sure of is that I (and my husband and family) needed support through the process.
We interviewed many different doulas and doula teams over the first 8-10 weeks of our pregnancy, and nothing felt "just right" until we met Merrie Anderson and Intuitive Birth. From the moment we first met in a coffee shop in Boulder, Merrie was figuratively paying for herself with great advice, and an almost intuitive (no pun intended) ability to know what we needed her to do and say. We started our pregnancy in the hospital and quickly transitioned around week 16 to the Birth Center of Boulder. Merrie supported, but in no way drove, that decision for our family, and we were grateful for her attendance and care throughout the process. Throughout our pregnancy, we ran into a few scary spots (a bad test result here, an undiagnosed rash there, etc) and every single time, Merrie was ready to help us: ready to put detailed, knowledgeable facts in front of our two-engineer household so that we could make an informed decision about something tricky (like whether or not to do amniocentesis when we had two conflicting test results). With her vast experience, calm nature, and dedication to her craft, I ALWAYS felt like I knew what was going to happen and what was the next decision to make. I went from feeling like pregnancy was out of my control to feeling empowered about my decisions, even if they went against hospital recommendations.
One of the reasons that I felt so certain that Merrie was the right fit for our family is that she has been through many different birth scenarios, both as a doula, but perhaps more importantly, as a mom herself to 4 beautiful kids. Having had 2 home births, Merrie was the epitome of what I wanted to be: an empowered, educated woman who knows that the human body was made for this experience. However, Merrie also knows from firsthand experience (2 transfers) when to seek help in labor and delivery. This was HUGE for me in my hiring decision, and ultimately ended up being necessary in my birth.
About 12 hours before I went into active labor, I started having severe back pain. Merrie dropped what she was doing in Arvada and raced up to my house in Boulder Heights to help me try to reposition the baby, who we suspected had moved into a less favorable position, causing the pain. She spent 3 hours with me and made some recommendations to seek assistance from our birth center, which we did. About 12 hours later (having seen no relief from pain), my water broke suddenly and we immediately went into 3-1-1 labor and moved to our birth center. Merrie advocated for me throughout the entire process of labor, which went extremely fast (3 hours total). She walked with me everywhere, held my hands, supported my never-ending movement, and made my husband into the partner I needed.
After a rushed labor, we moved into pushing, where things really significantly slowed down. I pushed for 4 hours at the birth center with no medication and made no progress, which was frustrating, defeating, and emotionally (and physically) exhausting, particularly after how successful and quick our labor had been.
After 4 hours, I felt like I really needed to throw in the towel, but didn't really know how to advocate for myself. Everyone seemed to be looking to me to decide, but saying (verbally or non verbally) that it would be OK to try a little longer before "giving up." Even my husband (who's a wonderful partner and now father) did not feel comfortable making the decision for me. This is where Merrie likely saved me from a C-section, and more importantly, saved me from feeling powerless in my own birth. She came in, took one look in my eyes, and knew it was time to go (likely from how it mirrored her own experience). Even as people were telling me to keep trying for another 30 minutes, Merrie was packing up our stuff, and moving us out the door to the hospital.
Once there, she stayed with me through getting my epidural, resting my body for a few hours, and then another 4 hours of pushing. She held my hands, braced my legs, and rubbed my back all while coaching me and monitoring my medication so that I could still have the very present-feeling birth I wanted. She reassured me that I hadn't failed, that this was the path I was supposed to take because she knew it was. And her certainty made me strong. Ultimately, after 8 total hours, I was able to have a vaginal birth to a strong, super passionate, warrior baby.
I could NOT have done this without Merrie by my side the whole way. If you have any uncertainty about your birth process, any concerns about advocacy, or just want an extra pair of hands and a fierce heart by your side through your pregnancy and birth, please hire Merrie and her team at Intuitive birth immediately. read more