[about Shawn's Friday LGBTQ brazilian jiu jitsu class specifically, although the other instructors & classes I've dipped into are also swell]
I'm a trans woman and this class is saving my life. I always got pushed out of martial arts as a kid (kung fu, fencing, even tai chi) because, while I was a good student & the instructors loved me, traditional pedantic/disclipline-based teaching styles is bad news for people with dysphoria and I certainly wasn't game for the toxic-masculinity of the sport culture. As an adult I wanted to learn self-defense in order to survive my day-to-day life as queer/trans, but I was too nervous to be hazed by the girls in existing women's self-defense courses who don't see me as one of them, and I also hate the token useless advice from men who don't understand the realities of trans/misogynist violence. I'd been shopping around for a long time (for myself & a handful of other trans folk) for a gender-affirmative place to train in ANY art, and after scoping out Four Elements for a few months it's where I direct everybody looking to train. [SIDE NOTE: if you're a trans woman, i also recommend Annie Danger's Girl Army course, although it's only intermittent beginner self-defense as of 2016]
Besides being a talented and personable instructor in her own right, Shawn Tamaribuchi has experience relating to trans folk and is queer herself. While she is not a trans woman, she seems to have a vested interest in helping trans people out of this pickle we're in, and she does do her research into gender-affirmative practices to make sure we're as comfortable as possible in her class. I'm often astounded by how on top of shit she can be: I was sparring last week with a femme trans man (& I'm a tomboy trans woman) with Shawn sporadically coaching from the sideline, and even in the heat of action, even though she was only half-paying-attention to our match, she never once even paused before either of our pronouns, which tbh is better than I would have done. Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is very touchy-feely and you get really close and personal with everyone's body, which would normally be a deal-breaker for my gender body dysphoria, but Shawn has somehow gotten me comfortable enough to not just hold cis people between my legs but to prefer it as an offensive position 0_o. I've noticed that she makes tons of tiny accommodations during demos/lectures that help me so much to forget my gender situation, like saying "for this move, if you have short legs, you do this..." when any other instructor in this sport would have said "if you're a woman, you'd do this..." She also (and this is huge) never forces students to do a drill, and even encourages us to sit out if we feel uncomfortable for whatever reason -- everything is opt-in, which greatly reduces my anxiety about participating. Maybe the best part (and take this with a grain of salt) is that while this is a sport-BJJ class, whenever an opportunity presents itself Shawn will pause in a demo to show us how & where a technique leads to a strike for a street-fight situation, or an "illegal" submission for an intimate-partner assault -- it just really shows that she gets that I'm not here for the sport, and she's not afraid to address the scary stuff that my previous male instructors shied away from by just talking about Mace / running away. In all, I'm so glad that someone like Shawn has managed to infiltrate the MMA / BJJ world, learn all this stuff for us, and then turn around and teach it to the people who have been otherwise excluded from this practice. read more