Today is 5/18/24 & it's taken me a long time to update my review. My last time in this facility was 11/30/22 when I had DSS come evaluate my grandmother to remove her from this facility and place her in a nursing home because ANYWHERE would be better than this facility's memory care unit.
When they were there and asking staff why my grandmother fell so many times & why she was placed on the floor like a kindergartner, they were met with attitude just as I was. When they left, their nurse (Fai) was making evil faces and didn't like the conversation I was having with another staff member about me feeling that most of the people were only there for a check and didn't care about the safety of the people who lived in memory care.
At one point, Fai & I locked eyes and she looked at me evil and I returned the look. She then asked me who I was talking about. I told her if I was talking about her, she'd know. Then, she asked me if I wanted to "take it outside". I don't know about you, but if someone asks you to take something outside, I'm sure you'd take that to mean they are trying to fight you. I had my son's dad on the phone the entire time & he heard everything. I took her up on her offer & followed her "outside" which ended up being her office. I was ready to give her what they'd been giving my grandmother all those months. She closed the door & told me she wasn't Eileen. I asked her what that meant & she, with her ghetto self, said that I knew what they meant. Then her friend came in and said we needed to go to Eileen Kwak's office instead because she didn't want Fai to lose her license trying to fight me. I was ready...but they walked to Eileen's office and I followed.
I don't like Eileen because she did nothing to ensure the safety of my grandmother all those months, but when we got to her office, Fai started lying and I told the truth and Fai left the office. I have NEVER had someone try to fight me in this facility, but at that point I was ready to go to jail. After that convo with Eileen, i realized that these people had NO CLUE how dementia affects people because she was saying my grandmother was doing things that is common with having dementia. She also said we could start having bi-weekly calls to give me progress on her, which I had no problem with because my goal was to get her out of there asap anyway. I left that day not knowing that it would be the last time I saw my grandmother alive.
On 12/1/22, my grandmother mysteriously died in their "care". Eileen called me frantic around 4 pm stating that my grandmother was unresponsive & that they had her in the floor attempting CPR on a PILLOW. (Everyone knows you don't do CPR with someone lying on a pillow.) She said her BP was 50/80 (does that even make sense???), and that they called EMS. The ER Dr called me around 4:50 pm stating that EMS was trying to revive my grandmother for a long time when this facility knew she had a DNR on file with them but couldn't locate it for them.
Why didn't Fai the "nurse" call me herself to tell me what was going on knowing that Eileen was incompetent and didn't know what to do or say to me?? It was because of the fact that she just wanted to fight me the day before. I have no doubt that this was done on purpose though there's no cameras in memory care to prove this. I asked about getting cameras the entire 8 months she was there. They told me they weren't allowed. I wonder why!!!
God knows and sees ALL! They will all get theirs eventually. Trust me. Do not leave your family member in this memory care facility. Please!!!!
My main regret is leaving her here for the long 8 months she was there. Most of them didn't care about her. The ONLY person I ever trusted her with was Caprea. She seemed like she really cared about the people in memory care. Even with my daughter there to visit most days of the week, she was in the ER more than she should've been & had too many head/eye injuries that they could never explain. THAT IS UNACCEPTABLE & YES I complained to the state!! YOU BETTER DO THE SAME IF YOUR LOVED ONE IS HURT THERE TOO.
I tried to get her out of this facility several times over the 8 months she was there. I worked full-time in a different state to pay for this facility, so I couldn't provide the 24/7 alone. 1 of the other facilities I looked at had a lock down in place, so that wasn't an option. The 2nd facility came to evaluate her, asked Fai for her records, and then all of a sudden, they couldn't care for her. She was sabotaged from leaving Bickford and then mistreated while there. There's no way someone should have that many mysterious injuries when they are bound to a wheelchair & she was bound to that wheelchair because they never set up therapy for her when she got there in April 2022, from the rehab facility down the street. She got weaker and weaker, and couldn't walk.
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