I was skeptical about enrolling my 18-month-old in school but I was pregnant with my second child and I knew I wouldn't have the time to attend to both after giving birth. I also knew that having my son interact with kids his age would help in the social milestones that our pediatrician inquired about.
My in-laws had great experiences with Montessori schools with their children, so I had high hopes. They had my son in their older infant class to get him acclimated to the experience, but he didn't experience much as he was constantly out sick (I was expecting this much with the increased interaction with people/germs). After a few months, he was transferred to the toddler class with Ms. Beth. His immune system finally got used to the environment, so he was attending his classes, which we had set up for only two days a week due to my husband and my work schedules. He seemed to flourish in this class, although there were hiccups. His doctor suspects that he has autism so when we relayed that information to Ms. Beth, she started to lower the lights and play classical music during work periods which helped to calm my son and help him focus.
After a few months, there were some administration changes and my son had to move to a different toddler class run by Ms. Lucy. Unfortunately, it seems that this teacher does not have much experience with autistic kids. In the Zoom meeting to introduce ourselves to the teacher, I informed her about the possible autism diagnosis, and it seems that she brushed me off, saying that it's typical for kids this age to be by themselves and that it's too early for this sort of diagnosis. I also told her that he was undergoing speech therapy because of his speech delay. The daily reports that were sent out didn't assure me that my son was getting the same level of care that he was getting in the previous class. I was also alarmed that we had found plastic beads, like the type used to make friendship bracelets, were found in my son's stool. I understand that Montessori schools are all about mixing kids of varying ages and having the kids be independent in everyday life, but I do not understand why choking hazards were introduced in my son's class. This institution was also very fast to fill out an "incident report" for a wound on my son's face when he arrived one day (the injury happened in front of my husband and I while he was in his speech therapy appointment). However, there were two instances where we didn't receive any report when my husband noticed bumps on my son's head.
The last straw that made me pull my son out of school was the Zoom meeting between the teacher and owner who requested that we only have my son in school for half-days instead of full days, as the teacher (Ms. Lucy) couldn't give my son the care that he needs. One, that's not feasible especially when the tuition for half-days was only $100 cheaper. Two, the school was more cost-effective than hiring a babysitter/nanny to cover that same timeframe. They mentioned that they "have other autistic kids" at the school who are fine with the school, but one autistic child isn't the same as another. They recommended noise-canceling headsets and teething toys for my son, however, he refuses to keep things on his head and he dismisses the teething toys. They had the audacity to offer to care for my 6-month-old daughter instead so we could care for my son, but why would I leave my infant with them if they can't even care for my two-year-old son? read more