First hand meeting Ann Kilroy Whitman, was very easy and relaxing . I felt as if I had found the perfect midwife to deliver my babygirl. She was very soft spoken, very reassuring and seemed nurtuting . She has over 30 years of experience and has many kids herself and this gave me peace of mind knowing I was making the right choice in having a home birth. I had expressed to Ann my concern of having a home birth after a c section and the risk of having a uterine rupture. She assured me that only 1% in women have a uterine rupture and this was very unlikely. She didn't seem concerned at all about this happening, which cleared up my worries.
I wanted to address a few concerns of care, my understanding was that there would be two caregivers present to assist me during my birth. I recall inquiring about the necessity of hiring a doula, to which she advised against it, stating the presence that there would be two caregivers during my birth, which is one of the reasons why I decided to hire her for services. Luckily, I had two of my closest friends to support although they weren't being paid for services. They gave me massages through out my labor and I felt seen. Some of the times I would look over at Ann , I would find her sleeping on my couch. I get it because the labor was long and it was midnight . She would wake up Ofcourse and check on my pulse and the baby's heart rate .
After a few hours my friends and Ann would take turns beside while I was in labor. However, after a while Ann told me to bear down and push as if I was to give birth. I thought in my head this was it and I would push with everything I had which it felt like I was pushing for hours. Ann never at any point checked to see how dilated I was, until my friends persisted she checked. Finally, she did and I was only 4cm dilated the entire time I was pushing. After almost 14 hours of labor, seeing some blood in the water and Ann stating my baby was sitting too posteriorly still, I had to be driven down to the hospital for an emergency c -section. My uterus ruptured and the doctors called it a Miracle, they said I came just in time otherwise I would have had to have a hysterectomy. This was all very traumatizing!
What was most concerning was that Ann did not call the hospital to let them know I was on the way, and she also did not check up on me and my baby after this all happened. I did request a refund , due to her lack of care which I understood was not going to be possible and she did refund me the doula fee which was $700, due to the fact that she said there would be 2 caregivers present and only she showed up.
I believe Ann is very knowledgeable and offers good standard care, I just wanted to share my story in case anyone else goes through this and is looking into home births after a c-section, please just be aware and make sure she check how dilated you are before starting to push.
Sincerely,
Shirley read more